Does anyone have a crazy bio mom ???
I am sooo stinking tired of the Bio mom. Skids live with us and Bio mom is practically the only thing SO and I fight about. We have a parenting plan kids live with us but it seems like EVERY day the bitch finds something to text SO about or call him about. It always starts off aobut the kids and ends up with her asking what he is doing?!? I know it sounds crazy but I don't have ANY trust in BM she is manipulative and I can't stand her. She is ok sometimes when she has a boyfriend but any other time she is still stuck on SO Whom ive been with for 3 1/2 years. She text him the summer and said she loved him was never going to be happy with out him and her family bla bla he didn't respond. She is Diagnosed Bipolar so shes nice one day and a bitch the next. SO is usually pretty open about telling me when she texts or calls we have set that boundry but It just irritates me I have started to feel like she always gets what she wants simply b/c he doesn't want to fight with her. The Bio mom doesn't pay her support, has food stamps which she buys the kids candy with and only wants to see or talk to them when it is convienint for her! I told SO I am tired of her walking all over him so hopefully that will change. I have no kids of my own so I look forward to the time She is SUPPOSED to take them, unfortunatly SO lets BM do wahtever she wants! My stomache just turns knowing they have talked today Does anyone else have that feeling? How do you deal with it? I serioulsy wish she would just dissapear
Yep she's a fucking
Yep she's a fucking nutbar.
Oh and a shitty mother.
But that doesn't matter right? YAY for BM's!!!
You can easily tell you're a
You can easily tell you're a new member, Disneygirl!! A better question would have been, does anyone NOT have a crazy biomom? It's by far the number one issue on this here forum.
Welcome to the club for poor old stretched-to-breaking point step parents, many of whom are seriously losing the will to live because of BM/SKID drama. :sick:
Ahhh I am new here haha I
Ahhh I am new here haha I stumbed upon this forum due to searching the internet for questions HAHA I could not say it any better!!! I can deal with this kids. I HATE HATE HATE the minipulating BM and have got to find a way to deal with her.. Well actually I don't deal with her dirtectly but she has been trying to wreck what i have since I got it! GIVE IT UP already! YOU lost your kids b/c YOU were a fuck up and YOU left him so grow up and let me have my turn LMAO
SHIT she makes me think I am the bat crazy one sometimes! Soooo happy I'm not the only one in the club! :jawdrop:
Mine is bipolar, a recovered
Mine is bipolar, a recovered crack addict and has some sort of personality and identity disorder. She's a nut job.
Ours is bipolar and has NPD.
Ours is bipolar and has NPD. Basically, she's nuttier than a squirrel turd.
I am completely amazed at how
I am completely amazed at how SO just deals with her most of the time.. Just lets everything roll off his shoulder like it doesn't phase him one bit! WTF?!? this bitch is crazy poor kids. I rember my SD8 at the time was mad at me and told me "Now your acting like my real mom" I shrugged that off laughed wanted to tell her "Oh honey you must come up with a better insult b/c I know I am NOTHING close to your real mom and 100% of a better person then she will ever be"
Yep, our BM is Bipolar and
Yep, our BM is Bipolar and NPD. She refuses medication, because that would mean she agreed. She doesnt think anything is wrong with her :?
She's been to many doctors, of all types, and never returns for a 2nd visit because she doesnt like what they tell her - THAT SHE IS FUCKING CRAZY.
Ours is bat shit crazy.
Ours is bat shit crazy. Diagnosed Bi-Polar and manic depressive. She is totally off the rails crazy. I can't stand her!!!
I am glad I am not the only
}:) I am glad I am not the only one with a bi-polar crazy lady in thier lives.. The kids pale in comparison to her! She makes my life hell too every chance she can She really puts on facebook that she has her kids 24/7 and the dad never takes them! I am not sure what world she lives in cus she see's them 4 days a month! HAHA :?
Haha well I have this stupid
Haha well I have this stupid fantasy in my head of actually being able to communicate with BM and have a decent relationship with her! HAHA Will never happen Can't even stand to see her face when she drops the kids off after her time! BUT I WANNA KNOW HOW EVERYONE COPES WITH THE CRAZIES! I feel I will loose my sanity soon!
Having a good DH helps. But I
Having a good DH helps. But I have zero contact with BM because she is a crazy fucking bitch and I hope she dies but besides that, she treats me like I don't exist so that makes it easier. I would suggest having lots of you time when the kids come to your place. It gets worse before it ever gets better. But the skids won't be young forever, thankfully!! Oh, and let go of that fantasy of actually being able to communicate with the BM. I used to be that way too but after 3 different relationships where skids were involved, not one BM hasn't been a crazy bitch. If you find one that is actually happy to have another positive role model in their kids life and communicates with you and the DH like a real parent should (rather than taking her kids word for everything and making irrational decisions based on incorrect information) then please let me know because I will be super jealous!
Oh yeah, ALCOHOL! Lots of it!
"after 3 different
"after 3 different relationships where skids were involved, not one BM hasn't been a crazy bitch. "
Don't you just love crazy fucking psycho biomothers??? WOOOO it's an epidemic of psycho sluts!!!
I try to have as much me time
I try to have as much me time as I can.. BUT my skids live with us! Only visit BM when She feels like it! Alcohol lol yes needed sometimes to deal with FDH too
Hmm...I wonder if your SK's
Hmm...I wonder if your SK's have the same BM as my ST (steptwat). J/K but they sound pretty similar. MY SO has custody of ST9. Him and BM have been apart for over 5 years yet she is still obsessed. She has had 15 or 16 boyfriends in the 4 years that I have been with my SO. Her men are more important than ST. She has contracted several STDs in the last 4 years, including one that she will have for life. (SO has been tested and has always tested clean). My SO also gives in to BM because she makes his life a living hell if he doesn't. She recently promised ST that if she lies and says that my BS14 touched her "bad spot" that ST would come live with her, so ST did as told. I have been involved with CPS 7 times since being with SO because BM is jealous so whenever she gets pissed she calls CPS and creates lies in an attempt to get custody of ST. However, when ST was 3 years old, BM allowed men to touch her so BM could get crack..and BM can't figure out why CPS removed ST from her care and why she is not able to get custody of ST. I told CPS that if BM makes another false report she will be brought up on harassment charges. BM also has bipolar disorder.
RedEyes, I am seriously
RedEyes, I am seriously considering leaving because my son is now acting out and getting in trouble...snuck outside the other night (thru his bedroom window) to smoke cigarettes the other night. A neighbor caught him and let me know. I cannot get over my anger. It's been almost two months since it happened and I still want to tear SD and BM apart. I'm sick of my kids being messed with, lied about, etc when SD is the real terror. And I cannot put my kids thru this anymore.
How do you deal with someone
How do you deal with someone (BM) who, after a pyschological report says she has multiple issues she needs to address, still refuses to attempt to fix things? She just sees my name on something and she flips. DH gets pushed around by her and when he says no to something, she screams that it's only because of me he is saying no. I just don't know how to deal with her anymore.
We have a crazy SpermGrandMa.
We have a crazy SpermGrandMa. Does that count?
Fortunately she dropped off of the planet when SS-20 turned 18 and her DickHead son's CS obligation, that she and SpermGrandPa paid, stopped when our son aged out from under the CO.
She was our particular PITA for nearly 18 years.