I have real doubts he even belongs to DH. DH and BM were not in a relationship, they slept together one time over a 2 month period, then 2 months later, she called and said she was pregnant. DH's Mom is a holy rolling bible beating tyrant, she controls DH as bad as skid does, so when she said marry her he did it no questions asked. Skid looks NOTHING like DH, BM was a whore of epic proportions, so I often wonder if maybe Satan himself impregnated her...joking, but that is what it seems like. I am not joking though about my doubts on the paternity, which makes this shit even more difficult to bear.

At 13, this is really bad. He has some issues for sure.

I was seriously at my breaking point, even after disengaging last fall. It helped but I was so full of disgust and resentment and anger, this site has helped me SO much since I found it. The part that irks me the most, is that other outsiders, lets say school for example, I know they had to have dreaded this kid every single day, yet, they sugar coated shit. It did finally get so bad that they kicked him out, but before that happened, I never understood why they acted like there was one damn good thing to say when there wasn't.

BM and MIL are the worst. I used to think they were just in deep denial about how bad skid is, but now I just think they are delusional nut jobs. NO WAY would a sane person think this kid is tolerable. I know what you mean, I describe it as being in a never-ending twilight zone episode where I am the only one that is normal and everyone else is just crazy.

I know all about the psycho BM too. Throw in a spineless Disneyland Dad and a certifiable MIL and you get kids like these.

Yep, BM puts skid in a stroller any time she takes him anywhere because she cannot control him otherwise, DH just refuses to take him out in public anymore. He wears pullups to bed every night because he has never been made not to and has never learned to not piss the bed every night. (he pees his pants all day long too) and when he is with BM she puts diapers on him during the day so she doesn't have to clean him up/do all the laundry he goes thru in a days time. DH and BM let him eat whatever he wants whenever he wants, he has no bedtime, he cusses like a sailor, and it is cute and funny.

This kid did not even know what a chicken was. I was baking a whole chicken one evening and as I was putting it in the oven he asked, "what is that?" I told him it was a chicken, and he said, "no it is not" I told him that yes, it was, he again argued and said no it isn't and I asked him why he was saying that, and he said because chicken doesn't look like that, chicken is nuggets.

His BM does not cook at all. She stuffs McDonald's, pizza, tv dinners, and all the junk/sweets he can stomach. He drinks mountain dew from breakfast on, refuses water, milk, juice, wails like a complete idiot for pop instead. I am disengaged now, but before I was, when I would cook, he would turn his nose up to whatever I made because it did not come in a cardboard box.

That will be skid and BM too. He is almost six, but he still sleeps with her, she has recently remarried, but I bet money he's right in the middle of them. I don't talk to her at all. I have not had anything to do with her in almost a year. Skid goes bonkers on the nights he is here because he is not allowed to sleep with DH. He gets mad and jealous over the dog and cat because they sleep in our bed. DH does not enforce any kind of structure there is no bedtime, skid crashes out wherever he wants, loveseat, couch, chair, floor, DH does not put him in his room and DH almost always sleeps in the living room with him. I don't even care anymore. I prefer to sleep with my pets these days anyway.

and now that he is 13, it is really getting pretty twisted. I predict that this boy will grow up into one of those men that live at home with Mommy forever and no woman will ever even start to measure up to her in his eyes, nor be good enough for Mommy's boy in hers.

BM's new husband knew her 2 months before he married her and the only reason he did so was she said she was pregnant. I bet he regrets it every day now that he has been exposed to her and skid for the last 6 months.

Stop picking him up. I am serious, I do not do JACK DIDDLY SHIT anymore when it comes to him. NOTHING. If DH or MIL cannot do it, oh well, he is not my problem.