Bonding with step daughter
Hi,
This is the first time I've used a form like this, but I need practical advise on how to bond with my step daughter. At this moment I can't..... I feel awful!!
My step daughter and her father have lived with me and my 2 daughters for 1 year. I know I should be able to bond with her but I can't, i' work with children on a daily basis and have no issues bonding with these children.
My step daughter at the moment doesn't see her mother because she is a violent alcoholic...... I know this little girl is screaming out for affection I don't know why I can't do it :o( ........ My step daughters behaviour to my children and other children has been pretty awful, she has bitten and bent my 5 yr olds fingers back and regularly bullied both my daughters......... I have had numerous discussions detailing how we treat other people and that we should treat people how we would like them to treat us.......
I have also asked her school for help and currently she is attending a group ( seasons for growth )
Designed to help children deal with changes and difficulties in their lives........
Help :0(
How old is she? And when
How old is she?
And when she's nasty to your daughters, what is the consequence for that?
How involved is her dad?
It's hard to bond with
It's hard to bond with someone who is mean to your kids! Regardless, of age. Don't beat yourself up for this! Is your family is therapy? With an absentee mother, your SD would definitely benefit. A therapist could help you find ways to bond. I would suggest not forcing a relationship. Kids can tell when someone is being fake and that could damage your relationship even more. For now, try to find fun activities that your family can do together without arguing!
True story. Dh needs to be
True story. Dh needs to be whooping that a$$ and YOU should be free from being around this kid until she gets the help/asswhoopins she needs. Not your problem though.
UM no to bullying and hurting
UM no to bullying and hurting other young children! Intervention is needed and seriously too. Your children should not be subjected to this abuse. Is the marriage really worth your children's well being? I think separate homes would be better for your little ones. That is my opinion. Good luck.
Hi thanks for the replys :0)
Hi thanks for the replys :0)
My sd is 9, and no her bm has not had any contact in over 1 year.
Her father is great with her, he is supportive of me and my kids really like him.
I just find it unbelievably difficult to like a child who hurts my children. I understand her behavior and really do want to help her, but I times I can't stand her being in the same room :0(
I personally would not allow
I personally would not allow ANYONE who hurt my kids or pets in my home and that includes skids! It is not worth it! Skid is not your kid and not your responsibility- but your children ARE and they need their mother to protect them from the abuse they are suffering at the hands of the skid. Get that skid away from your kids!!