I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!!!!
Well, I have finally decided to call it quits. It was not an easy decision to make but to make a long story short, I have posted on this site regarding the issues I have been having with my husband's child. I realize I never should have married him because I knew prior to marrying him that he is a "Disney Dad" and thinks that his child can do no wrong. I also posted previously about her behavior and how it was causing issues with my employment (work from home). Needless to say, I was removed from my job because of a wild tangent she went on with slamming the doors in bathroom and her bedroom. The noise was so loud, it was heard during an audit of one of my calls with a client. Luckily my employer was sympathetic and is allowing me to assume a position with another one of their contractors but the sheer embarrassment was horrifying. I finally broke down and told my husband she was the cause. I withheld it from him because I did not want to ruin his and his daughter's summer visitation. That coupled with his lack of parenting pushed me over the edge. I told him that I have had enough and it is not working. I told him that his lack of parenting is only going to cause things to get worse as she gets older. She is 13 going on 20 now. I can only image that it will be pure hell down the road. I just cannot bear putting myself through another summer of this crap. I love my husband dearly but I love myself more. I lost a job behind his child and for me that was the last straw! I am so torn and angry that he allowed this to happen. I have tried over and over again to talk to him about the situation but he just gets defensive and wants to state that I hate his daughter, etc. I informed him that regardless of her causing me to lose my job, I still spent my time and money on her and never said a word. I was willing to sacrifice so much of me for my husband but I feel he is undeserving and would have never or ever make any real sacrifices for me. After close evaluation, I feel that he and I are never going to see eye to eye and it is best to get out now before things get worse. 
Another one bites the dust!!
Another one bites the dust!! My breakup was EXSo was 2 weeks ago , hun, also mostly about spoiled SD8
just post here, we are all here and understand that enough is enough. There are a few here dealing with break ups atm, darling , you are NOT alone !So sorry for your pain!!
I am wondering if it's time
I am wondering if it's time to throw in the towel myself. We are married eight years. Next month, we'll be together 10 years. I finally thought he was seeing the light but I was told last night how horrible I've treated his kids since day one. His son has literally made my life a living hell for the last 9 years. Did I mention I moved 450 miles to be with him? This was no internet love story. We worked together many years ago and were good friends - that's it. But now, almost 10 years later, I don't know what way to go. I don't know what to do.
Update, my husband came to me
Update, my husband came to me apologizing and saying he was sorry about everything that had happened. He thanked me for thinking of him and said he appreciated that fact that I was thoughtful about not telling him that his daughter caused me to lose my job. He said he wish I had told him before last night maybe he could have done something differently. I told him that I understand she is a 13 yr old child but her actions were willful and she knew that she was making allot of noise and it was purposeful. He has been walking around with his head hanging down for two reasons, one he just left to take her to the airport (yes, she is returning to her mother-thank GOD) and two, his marriage is non-existent because of his child's behavior. He has been trying to kiss my @ss all day but I am not trying to hear it because I have talked to him about this since the day I first met her. Sometimes these husbands of ours don't realize the magnitude of their inaction when it comes to their children until there is a reaction from us. I love him dearly but I am so angry, hurt and feed up with this child and this bs every frickin summer!
Miz, my fear is that he only
Miz, my fear is that he only tries to be nice NOW since his daughter goes back anyway.Think about this- would he try as hard to be in good terms while she is around or does he care more about her happiness and feelings than yours?Please ask yourself the question if you are accepting to only have a good rs with your husband when she is not around.And in that moment she is back he needs her more than you and you would be kicked under the bus.Don't let his nice, regretful behaviour blend you- this is mostlikely noy because he understands and sees your problems suddenly but because she leaves anyway and he realizes he doesn't want to be in bad terms with you now.Be a bit careful, hun, before you lovingly forgive him straight away.Decent changes will only show if he starts treating you important and as his wife WHEN she is around, everything else is just words to keep the peace at home.
That's a tough one. My DH
That's a tough one. My DH has offered to "send his son" away numerous times and if I ever thought he truly was trying to put our marriage first, I probably would have let him. But everytime he's offered, it's always been in anger and I know if I were to let it happen, I would be to blame and whatever happened from that point on would be my fault and it would not help our marriage. It would only hurt it more. So I've not allowed him to move SS anywhere and I've stayed in my own private hell.
Today that hell consists of me living in our spare bedroom until we can get in to see our marriage counselor. I've threatened to leave numerous times but he says that if I leave, I am the one giving up when in reality, it's his actions that have put us here. So I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. But I've got some food, drink, my lapop, my cell phone and a TV. At times, it's kinda nice!!!!! We'll see what happens.
I absolutely love this forum though. It might be the only thing keeping me sane.