BM's games!
I'm so over the games BM plays! We just try and go about our life, not giving her a second thought, but she will screw us around every chance she gets! Luckily it's not that often as we limit contact with her and have good orders in place (initiated by us), but here's the latest as I need to vent...
SS9 played his first season of basketball last term. It's the first time he's been involved in team sports (something we had urged him to do for a while for social reasons - more on that another time), but his mother was reluctant to get him involved. Turns out he loved it! So we were wondering if he was going to do it again this term, and sure enough, he had his basketball gear with him when we picked him up on Friday (we meet at a half-way point due to living an hour apart), and in the communication book the BM had written that basketball started back this weekend.
We had a lunch out planned, but we cancelled as we believed it was in SS9's best interest to go to basketball instead. So off DH trots on Saturday with BS2 in tow for the one hour drive to take him to basketball, which will be followed by a one hour drive again to get home. And low and behold it had been cancelled! And apparently BM had been notified! But the fn bitch couldn't tell us! Why the f*ck would she when it's an opportunity to f*ck us around!
So DH wrote in the communication book that it will not happen again, or we just won't take him anymore. The thing is, I'd hate to see that happen as he's generally a good kid and deserves to go. DH said SS9 was so upset when he found out it had been cancelled because he knew he had stuffed us around - DH was quick to let him know it wasn't his fault. Once again, SS9 is the one hurt most by her games. Our plan is to see if we can also be contacted in case of a cancellation, however it's a small town run thing mainly by parents who are no doubt in tight with BM.
Ooh what a b!tch!! It's crap
Ooh what a b!tch!! It's crap like that that makes you wish assault wasn't against the law eh!
Ooh, I have come close to
Ooh, I have come close to slapping her in the past! We lost our first BD together in the 2nd trimester (after trying for years, a struggle I'm sure her bestie, my MIL filled her in on). Afterwards she actually stood on my doorstep, looked me up and down and said 'you were never pregnant'!
The look on my face must have said it all as she ran to her car and locked herself in demanding we send SS9 out. So I stormed over and told her my pregnancy was none of her business and she wasn't welcome at my house again or I will call the police.
Not too long afterwards we had the CO changed for a half way drop off/pick up point and had a communication book implemented. We don't get out of the car now so she can't engage us about useless crap like she used to. Anything important is written in the book that comes with SS9 or texted if between visits. Didn't stop her from opening the car door to 'talk to skid' when our new BS was in the car and all she did was stare at him whilst talking to skid!! Once again she was told in no uncertain terms that she was to not do that again. Some people!
Demand that you get put on
Demand that you get put on the email list or however they do their communication for practices, games, etc. That has helped us tremendously for these kinds of things
I'm sure if you let BM know
I'm sure if you let BM know that if you aren't on the email list, you won't be taking him to any more games then she will make it happen.
Thanks guys, that is exactly
Thanks guys, that is exactly what we hope to do. DH is away on course with the army at the mo so he can deal with it when he gets back
THIS. OH needs to speak to
THIS.
OH needs to speak to the coach himself and get called/emailed about anything related to the basketball - not just the changes on his week.
We have missed out on trophy presentations, had last minute notification of parties etc; end of year basketball break ups (ie you pick them up to be told it's happening in half an hour)
OH had to go to their old schools and get put on their lists to be contacted regarding ANYTHING relating to either skid. They were pretty good with it.
Then Bitchface moved and they started new schools, he has been up and seen both principles (BM chewed him out for going speaking to them without her permission.... apparently next time he is to ask her first if she minds.... - F8cking crazy bitch) SD13's school said NO!!! He insisted and they relented and he now gets school reports and some notes, but we don't think he gets told of everything. SS's school - were good when he went in, no problems, can do etc. But he's had not a word from them in 4 months... Even to the point that SS10 was called to the principles office last week (which is level 4 in their behaviour code) and OH was not informed of it. We cannot even get a clear picture of what happened (and OH called the principle to find out) Of course, in SS's version he was totally blameless and innocent - aren't they always...
Luchay, we must have the same
Luchay, we must have the same BM! Oh, the stories I could tell you! And schooling plays the biggest part
Eta: our stories are similar right down to regular principle visits we weren't informed of! And that's despite constant emails from us to the teacher wanting to be updated! Needless to say the shit hit the fan mid year this year and it has all changed.
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