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Adult Stepson doesn't speak in front of his Mother

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Submitted by Judy51 on Wed, 03/12/2014 - 3:31pm

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We recently had a death of a grandchild of one of my stepsons. For the first time since my husband and u have been married, his ex-wife had to be around us. They have been divorced for about 17 years, he was married again before me and she is married but she blames me for their divorce. We worked together about 30 years ago and she was convinced we were having an affair. We did not, never was even a thought. Anyway, his son and his Mom live in another state. They rose together but he stayed at his grandparents where we were staying. His son always hugs me and treats me very well but anytime we were in a place and his Mom was there, he wouldn't speak or act like I was there. This makes me very upset. Am I wrong?

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Submitted by Bio-Step-Mom on Wed, 03/12/2014 - 3:44pm

I dated a guy who was a skid. His parents divorced when he was like 8 and 10 years later his dad married his SM.

At the point we dated he was like 35 years old. He STILL would not be "normal" towards his SM when his BM was around. He suffered a major illness and when his Dad and SM came into town they were not allowed at his house because his mom would be upset.

LADY, GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!!!

She was reason #1001 why I would have never married him. Talk about PAS...

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 03/12/2014 - 4:21pm

I would let it go. Death is horrible and brings out the worst in people. He had so many things running through his head, being nice to SM, was probably not even a thought. Trust me, buried a child and I would not want to be judged on my behavior that day, let alone that year after.