Daddy's romantic gifts- please speculate why????
I had an ex-boyfriend with a daughter who was in her late teens/early twenties when we were together.
We all lived together, and I noticed a pattern with him when it came to gift giving- each and every time he gifted me with something, no matter what it was, he always made sure to give his daughter the EXACT same present, plus a few things more.
For example, he was going overseas on business and asked me if I would like anything from there. I liked a particular kind of earrings they have in that country, so I asked for a pair. He brought me the earrings. BUT he brought his daughter the exact same pair of earrings, PLUS the matching necklace, bracelet, and ring!
On top of that he brought her a whole suitcase full of new clothes. This was a regular thing. Only when we were first dating and I hadn't met her yet, did he EVER buy me anything without giving her an exact match, plus additional presents.
What do you think the purpose was for this?
To show her that she was more important to him than me? To make sure she wouldn't be jealous since she got the same thing plus more? Because she was more of a girlfriend to him than I was? It was so weird, even to this day, I can't figure it out.
Oh my goodness..and I thought
Oh my goodness..and I thought I was alone in this.
Before my hubby and I got married, he was sweet enough to buy me a "star". One of the sweetest things he ever did. Then I found out he'd bought his daughter a star also. Bugged the crap outta me, but I kept my mouth shut.
I framed mine and have it hanging on the wall in our bedroom. SD came in one day..saw it..and I saw her roll her eye..as though she thought she'd gotten HERS first and I had to have one too..
Ugh!!
Hubby bought me two dozen red roses for our August anniversary. They were beautiful and I felt soo loved. How sweet of him!!
Come Sweetest Day, hubby told me that he always sends his daughter roses to her school. I was fine with that until I found out that he sent her RED ones.
WTF??!
He didn't think there was anything wrong with sending her RED roses. He could have bought her yellow..white..or purple for all I care but RED?? NA UH!!
As he added..."Well HERS didn't come with a vase.." WOOT!!
Oh..and guess what I got for Sweetest Day?? Half a dozen balloons!!
Ppppttttt!!!
Hubby said that since he'd bought me two dozen roses for our anniversary..he thought he'd "switch it up" a bit for me and buy me balloons...
I felt like a damned clown carrying those out of the flower shop...and later I found out that he'd paid $50 bucks for the damned things!!
I feel like an unappreciative brat but why oh why does he always have to do the same for his daughter as he does for ME?? Drives me completely nuts!!
Thank goodness this is your
Thank goodness this is your EX!!
yes, i'm very thankful that I
yes, i'm very thankful that I finally got my head back and left him, but just feel absolutely haunted because I can't understand how I thought so poorly of myself to put up with those kinds of things for years without leaving.
wow, catmom, that is EXACTLY
wow, catmom, that is EXACTLY what he would have said, word for word
especially that he can buy her whatever he wants. yes, he would have said all of that, exactly.
actually, stepdown, I have
actually, stepdown, I have read your blogs, and always thought your DH sounds like my ex boyfriend- he is a middle eastern guy who expected me to keep everything perfect in the house, but his daughter could destroy and steal everything and he would just kind of say "well, that's just what we have"....we will just deal with it, that's how she is....
And she did actually ask ME
And she did actually ask ME to buy her a replica of anything I bought myself. I said no, I can't afford to by double of everything I get myself. But, she probably asked him to buy her a copy of anything he bought me, and he probably said "Sure, my little girl, no problem, my sweetheart". :sick:
she was not his bio daughter,
she was not his bio daughter, but adopted at birth. I swear, one time I did have a dream where they informed me that they were going to have sex with each other
My Boyfriends Daughter is
My Boyfriends Daughter is also an adopted teen, friends of mine have hinted to me that maybe there is something more going on there than meets the eye. I really don't think that but I do wonder why he is putting so much energy towards this child that not really his, he's about to be 49 and relationships aren't just knocking at his door.
Wow!!!! Adopted children are
Wow!!!! Adopted children are "really" ours! What a horribly inaccurate and insensitive thing to say. If anyone ever dared to mention to my daughter that she wasn't "really mine" since she was adopted, I can picture the rain of Hell that would be visited upon that person!! I'm also shocked that no other steptalk moms did not jump the Hell all over this! Just wow!