Another example of a mother willing to sacrifice her own children just to create a meaningless problem for the father. With women supposedly the nurturing half of our race how can these women go so far wrong?

In my opinion the kid should not be wearing any at all. Lacking that a simple stud just to keep the hole open until she's at least a teen is all that should be worn but standards vary and I don't impose mine on others. Not very often anyway and usually a waste of everyone's time.

Since this is a blatant lie Daddy should tell her the truth and personally I would take it one step further. Make the kid wear a expendable set - simple studs - for the weekend and send her home with them in place and her "normal" set in her suitcase or backpack. He can word it nicely by saying "Mommy made a mistake and we'll show her the truth wear these for the weekend and she'll see you're going to be OK".

BM does this to SD too. SD hates wearing them & always asks to have them taken out around bedtime. One day I took them out & SD put them up on her dresser. Well, I guess it fell off & she thought she lost one. She cried hysterically about how her mommy said her ears were going to close up. Then she found them and was rushing me to find time to put them back in for her. She's had her ears pierced since she was an infant, she is now 7.

We have no reservations letting skids know their mother and grandmother are lying to them. But we're not blunt unless it's a danger or could cause legal trouble. We talk them through the reality. You can start with you're been changing them and they haven't been infected. She's probably had ouchies and sores that didn't get "chopped off" why would her mother say such a silly thing that's never happened before. Go that route I feel like it's a never ending battle with PAS but it's worse BM is actually threatening to spank if they won't lie and say we hurt them, and GBM has started threatening to take their mom away if they don't It can get much worse we're lucky we've been on top of it since day one and the kids tell her "it's not nice to lie"

My DH and I never lie to SS. When BM tells him something untrue, we talk to him about it. He can actually tell when his mother is lying to him.

I would tell your SD the truth. Her BM is a horrible person for scarring her own child that way. I love women like this - they use their kids as pawns, but then are the first to claim that they're good moms.

I feel so bad for this kid.

We went on a Caribbean vacation and SD refused to go anywhere near the ocean because a shark would eat her. She was 11 at he time and told us that BM said there were too many sharks and that DH wouldn't be able to keep her safe, and that if SD died, BM would die.

We were on a group trip, so there was like 20 of us in the ocean, 2 were infants. She sat staring at us, but would only go in the pool. Day 2, she came in and had a blast. (told her mother and her mother tried to ground her from home! :jawdrop: jackass) So funny.

Anyway, my point is, if you wear earrings, you could take yours in and out to show her there is no danger? Rather than explaining to a terrified 5yr old, show her?

Sounds like my BM. SD7 had her ears pierced as an infant but tells me all the time she hates wearing earings. BM likes to dress her up with a bunch of jewelry. She puts drop down earrings on her! I think she is too little for that kind. But BM tells her "you won't look cute/pretty/nice unless you put on jewelry". No wonder she hates it. I had mine pierced at about 8yo so it was my choice and I think that's a better way to do it. I had to be responsible for cleaning and was excited that I got to wear earrings. SD never wears earrings at our house.