Why do I know this will blow up in my face?
BM got visitation tonight. Pick up 5pm.
5:45pm-ish I get a knock at the door (while I am on the toilet)
I yell, "Just a second", as I am walking to the door less than 20 seconds later I hear a horn honk, and by the time I am to the door and open it, BM is driving away.
Now, Either one of the kids forgot something and she just decided to turn around halfway to her home and show up at our home over 45 minutes after pickup without letting us know.
I can only assume one of the other kids found what they needed in the car so she honked?
Or the less than a minute it took me to get to the door was too long and she got impatient and made the kids get back in the car?
I called my husband and let him know I went out in the driveway after them and waved my hands as they were driving away and he sent a message immediately on their communication website saying, "Did one of the kids need something? No one waited long enough for anyone to come to the door. You were seen driving off when the door was answered."
She has logged into the site to read the message.
I just know this is all going to blow up. She brings the kids to school tomorrow morning. So She will probably try to get into the house again tomorrow morning when no one is home. That is if the kids really do need something for school.
Exactly what I'm wondering.
Exactly what I'm wondering. Why is BM at our house on her time.
And I'm not liking it.
We have custody. She gets visitation. Every other weekend and every other Thursday night during school and every other week during the summer.
The kids go to school in our town. BM lives 45 minutes away.
She was the one who left DH, had an affair with another married man.
So if she picked them up at 5pm tonight and showed up again at our house after 5:45pm. She had to have stopped halfway and turned around to come back, or something.
She may have had a fight with
She may have had a fight with one of the kids and taken him/her back to your place 'to teach him/her a lesson'. Then changed her mind because it would make her look like a heartless b*tch.
Great she finally responds,
Great she finally responds, "Yes SS forgot clothes for tomorrow. He knocked for over 5 minutes and no one came to the door! But no worries I just went by MIL house (live a mile away) and he found some clothes there."
So DH is furious.
She stopped by our home unannounced. (Got impatient that the door was locked and knows grandmas house is always unlocked)
So she honks. Then drives to my MIL (they are farmers and usually always home) but DH has not talked to his mom yet to see if there was any forewarning. Knowing BM she probably pulled up in their driveway and had SS go into their home whether they were home or not.
It is pretty much obvious she
It is pretty much obvious she is marking her territory. She does not have to call in advance because it is her baby daddy's house and she can walk in at any time. Don't you know her children live there? *sarcasm*
The kids are embarrassed to
The kids are embarrassed to wear the crap she has for them to school.
The one night every other week she takes them over night she take a change of clothes or they change clothes before they go for school the next next day.
Restraining order and neutral
Restraining order and neutral pick up location. There is no reason for bm to come to your house ever.
My partners ex used to get
My partners ex used to get the kids to sneak through windows and get paperwork etc as neither of the kids had keys and we would go away for the weekend when we were kid free.
Some people are just nuts.
We have a security system
We have a security system with garage code that the kids know.
They can always get in if they really need to.
This particular instance they were not allowed by BM to go to the pin pad (or wait long enough to be let in)
This was a stunt.
They later told us BM and her boyfriend were pissed and yelling about something else the whole time.
They just wanted to cause trouble.