I have to rant......besides the inlaws not being able to say one nice thing about husband's ex, when she finally realized husband and I were dating she all of a sudden became interested in her sons, husband had full custody. I am a friendly type, get along with people and used to feel confident in getting along with others. I tried to befriend this woman as I felt it was best we get along for the sake of the children. Holy freaking cow. She let me know on no uncertain terms that I was not "their momma" and that if my husband were to have to leave town for any length of time she wanted them with her. One day I called her house when the boys were visiting her and she hung up the phone. I called back she told me to not call back, the boys didn't want to talk to me. Another time she let me know that her boys did not like me or my daughters. This woman was pure evil in my book. The boys would come home from a visit an tell us the lies she was telling them which we would then have to unravel. She sent a complaint to my husband's employer telling him that I was not allowing her to talk to her sons, it never happened. She claimed she heard their voices in the back ground. if she heard anything in the back ground it was the TV or radio but I never kept the boys from talking to her when she called, that her fun tricks! She sent a phony document to make it look like she was using an attorney and husband was to pay for boys plane ticket for a summer visit, it was ridiculous! If the boys got in trouble at home with us and one of them went to her telling her what I did or said she would then tell them that I didn't like them, she pulled the same crap with my husband.....we were dealing with a drinking issue with one of the boys and I felt she should know so I told her before the boys went to visit so she could watch him, she was friendly enough on the phone and then she turns around and tells my husband that the only reason I mentioned this was because I didn't like the boys.

Repeatedly she threatened that she was seeking an attorney to get custody and finally when the boys were like 15/16 and wanting to get jobs and spend their summers with friends they told her that they didn't want to do the summer visits any more. This was the first time that she was actually decent to me. She was all concerned as to why they didn't want to visit and I just told her they have a life here and they want to stay with heir friends. She then stopped threatening to seek an attorney. In the 4 years of high school the boys had she never visited once until oldest graduated and then all she could do was stare me down. My inlaws put on this huge sickening act of long lost friends.....a total switch from all these years of them bashing her. I realized then how two-faced these people are.

I went thru so much and did my best by the boys raise them and all I got form her was slams yet the boys rather than seeing her hatred and destructive ways saw anything that their mom did as being right. I was blamed and the family knew it so I find this hard to swallow.

Last night when I mentioned this to my husband, his response was, "I am not going to get upset because my ex in on this page." I just felt thrown under the bus not only by my inlaws (who might see if as the "Christian" way to do things) but by husband too who just wanted to blow this off like it was nothing.