DH stuck in the past
Happy New Year! To start things off we had Christmas Eve with my side of the family since the visitation rotated and we had ss Christmas Day this year. Had been in the house not even 15 minutes...My mother walks up to me, puts her hand on my stomach..."do we have an announcement to make?" I was baffled and responded "no??" She patted my stomach and said "oh..OK then.". I seriously wanted to just leave. Now it's New Year's Eve and dh has been on the phone with his friend about how their lives didn't work out. Just found out dh was so unhappy in his previous relationship with BM that he stood on the edge of a bridge and contemplated jumping...The only thing that stopped him was thinking about ss growing up without a father. Wish he would have told me this. I don't know what to think. Kind of explains his crazy obsession with ss not feeling anything but "butterflies and rainbows" when he is over. Very unrealistic. Sorry if I'm rambling it's been a rough couple of weeks. Paid the phones again with no help while SS enjoyed his new tablet, PSP, $100 Nintendo Wii expansion, and other goodies. I'm so tired. What is it with family/people thinking just because you are married you need to have kids? Is there a checklist I'm missing? Lol kids aren't cheap.
Wow, that would annoy me,
Wow, that would annoy me, too. All of it. I'm sorry you are dealing with it.
My parents were not kid people at ALL, so I never had to deal with that..more the opposite. People's fascination with it seems so weird to me, especially when it's not them who will be affected for the rest of their lives!
Seems selfish to me when parents do it to their kid (you) so THEY can have something new to do, talk about to "keep up" their friends, etc. Wow, get a hobby. And yes, most sheeple do think there is a "checklist"..just laugh at them that they can't think for themselves.
I never had kids and neither did my best friend, and we are the happiest people I know at 49. She woke up in Prague today, in fact, after visiting Norway the last few days! We travel the world, have no huge problems on a daily basis, less stress, and have absolutely zero regrets that we chose this path in life (quite the contrary actually-we're thrilled!).
And please, stop paying their phones!!
Have a Happy New Year!
Dh and BM never made it
Dh and BM never made it beyond the engagement stage. They were engaged for over a year and she became pregnant, he worked 3 jobs to get BM out of her family's 3 bedroom apartment and into a house so they could build their family. BM moved her family into the home. Her family became comfortable, refused to move out. Dh and bm relationship went south soon after when she refused to acknowledge the "family" dh was trying to build with just her and said her family could stay.
Anyway...Yes I promise I see everything you mentioned. The other scenario I see happening is dh becoming overwhelmed upon birth of our child, feeling torn when ss becomes angry at time being split between children, and our relationship becoming non existent. I also realize we can NOT afford another child. It is selfish that my family thinks we can do this no problem...They don't realise I have to work 55+ hours a week just to keep our heads above water. A child isn't a puppy you leave in a kennel 12 hours while you work and they are happy to see you at the end of the day. I knew once we got visitation established and CS that it was never going to happen. As long as I can always have my dog I think I can live with that. Pets are a heck of a lot easier to deal with in my opinion.