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It's All in Who You Know

Sweetie's picture

Well, I've figured out something new today. The way you get treated is not because of where you're standing in line, it's because of who you are, or should I say who you know. I was checking with a sketch artist about my beloved deceased hound's sketch, that I ordered in March (he passed away in February) and I've been waiting since March. She still hadn't gotten it done yet. Last month, it was supposed to have been started and should been finished two weeks ago. Well, inbetween, an acquaintance of mine, her hound had just passed away, and miraculously, her sketch is being being worked on. So, of course, I'm basically, saying, it's saying, it's who you know. And I sent an email back to the sketch artist saying, my dog has been deceased since February....do you realize that? And I said....I'm pretty frustrated.
Basically, I'm saying, that's really not right. Hers just died. Mine's been dead. Where is that fair? So, I just got back on the internet and started looking for more sketch artists--one does oil pastels and another does pencil drawings to see if I can get Tony's portrait done. I didn't say anything else to the original artist. I figured maybe she'd get the idea, that perhaps I'd was a bit annoyed, and a little tired of her blessing me, instead of her getting my sketch done. I mean, my dog's dead. Don't you think I'd like to see his picture? And then today, I went to see the rheumatologist and that was a total waste of time. It was like a big interview with two doctors and they were asking, well, why are you here? And all my pertinent labwork was missing. So, I looked stupid. And then, I had to go back out to the waiting area to wait for them to bring my lab slips back and they never came. So, I told my husband, let's leave because it was an hour's drive from home, and I could get the same lab work done in town at my primary doctor's office. It was a very frustrating experience. It was like I was wasting their time. I never want to go back there. And it was supposed to be a good hospital place-Medical College of Georgia-but it was in a slum area in the middle of the projects.
So, now, once again, I have a really bad attitude about going to the doctors and staying on my meds. And nothing has been resolved. And they just wanted to send me to another orthopedist to make another hole in my right ankle and I just barely have gotten the last two holes to heal from the accident from falling through the attic. It's like being a guinea pig. I don't have anybody to help me if I need to be off my feet. And I still haven't touched on how bad the experience was just getting to the doctor's because we got lost and then my husband got mad and then left me and the hospital lobby and was making faces at me. If I had a stick, I would have hit him. And I was using the lobby phone to call the doctor's office, and I was so frustrated, and he walks out and away, and I had no idea where he'd gone, nor where I was because I'd never been there before or in the downtown area. And I needed his help and he wasn't helping me. And the tears were just running down my cheeks. It was a lousy day all around. I told him not to help me like that again. I don't know what came over him because that wasn't helpful at all. Because I was trying to listen to someone's directions and I didn't know where I was. So I just got bits and pieces of stuff and finally found him outside and told him to drive towards home, and then showed him where I thought we should have been, and then he tried to find it.
This is all out of order now, but I guess someone will understand. Because you will see from the earlier entry I got to the doctor's but it was a waste of time, anyways.
And I haven't heard from either of my SK, but one is probably still writing crap about me on her blog that isn't shut down, and the other one can't be bothered unless he wants something. My husband is supposed to confront my stepson the next time, and finally get it sorted out, because I am frankly tired of being used. If you can't be decent all the time, then go away. Cause I don't need it. It's not right or fair to use people.
That's how my day has been and it's 3 in the afternoon.

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Sherrylyn's picture

I understand your frustration. Why is it that when we really could use some kindness & understanding it just isn't to be found? My husband just will forget that I could use someone to LISTEN to my troubles. He has given me step by step what he thinks I should do, he has not even paid attention to what I'm saying because he's playing an eltronic game to name some of my disappointments. I end up just fed up. Now I'm extreamly strong, so my disappointment comes across as anger. I only cry at the top of what I'm capable of handling.

I really don't know why it is that men get the pass on being understanding. (& yes I know there are exceptions on both sides.) I know we all can be understanding if we want. None of the problems you faced at the doctors were of your doing, so why do you get treated poorly? I just makes me hot under the collar.

I hope you didn't pay a deposit to that person for the sketch of your dog. That would put me off too. Business' should respect that fist in should be first out.

I hope you have a good holiday on the 4th. Just put all those people who would use you or wish misfortune on you out of your thoughts for at least one day.

Sweetie's picture

Hi Sherrylyn,
I don't mean to sound snappy, but I was pretty frustrated. And then the issue with my dog's sketch was just the topper. I just wish if the artist hadn't wanted to do the sketch she had just said so in the first place. I was pretty put off and angry. My dog's been dead for five months now and I could have been looking for someone else. As it turns out, I did find someone this afternoon. I am taking my time, and she is also going to be doing some other work for me as well. I am going to get a sketch done of my husband's deceased Border Collie, Jack, who was my beloved Tony's predecessor. At first, my husband fought me tooth and nail about getting Tony, because he wasn't ready to get another Tony. But he desperately misses Tony, even though we now have Murphy and Bullet.
Jack, who was my husband's Border Collie, came back with him from England, and was a byproduct, of his divorce. The dog was extremely intelligent, and a real crackerjack. But I was able to teach him some new tricks, even later in his life, much to my husband's chagrin. The sketch of his dog will be a belated birthday present, but still a surprise for him. Jack fought a valiant battle with osteosarcoma for a year and a half.

Hope that you enjoy your 4th of July holiday with your family!
Regards,
Sweetie