It's a boy!
We had our ultrasound yesterday and the baby looks good and is a boy.
Things have been really rough lately. My sweet DH has been sick & they now feel he has lymphoma. We see an oncologist on Wednesday & he will probably need a bone marrow biopsy to know for sure. They discovered that he has many enlarged lymph nodes in his abdominal region, some up to 17cm. ( normal is 5) It has been a very scary last couple of weeks as he has had many tests done to get us to this diagnosis. Not good any time & not when you r 20 wks pregnant. Yesterday was bitter sweet ( we found out the afternoon before)I has been up crying all night the night before & he didn't sleep well wither. He was so quiet during the u/s because the entire time he was thinking that he may never hold this baby.
The boys went with and were so good. My 6 y/o ss probably knows more about reproduction, babies & u/s then any other kid in his class. He is so smart & asks excellent questions. All 4 of us were hoping for a girl, but quickly got over it. They shared the photos with their mom when she picked them up & I made copies so they can takle them to school Monday.
I had to break the news to BM about DH, because we were not sure if we could commit to our financial share of oldest SS's braces, she offered to pay whole amount if necessary. I was nervous about her reaction, not needing any additional stress, she was great. I am going to try & make sure we are able to do our share as I feel guilty, especially since DH wanted to go on a road trip to a ball game with kids ( pretty cheap get away) and I said yes. I feel that he needed something to look forward to if the news about his health is bad. Here's to hoping we don't owe IRS too badly. I go there after the oncology visit. If I wasn't pregnant I would start drinking. 
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Oh my goodness, sweetthing
I saw your posting title and I was so excited for you and then I opened it and and read it and just got sick to my stomach. My heart goes out to you. I will be thinking of you and praying that the oncology appointment on Wednesday comes up with positive news. Jesus, this is not what you want to be dealing with right now! Or ever, but certainly not when you're expecting a child.
Life sure is precious. Don't worry so much about the finances, just enjoy your lovely family. I'll be thinking of you. We're here for you.
Thanks Caitlin,
It has been really tough. I am so scared of loosing him. I have waited my entire life for him. He is my best friend and we have an amazing relationship. I know that if anything happened to me I would never find anyone who would love me the way her does.
I have wanted a baby for almost 20 years and the thought of my son growing up with no daddy just kills me. I don't just want him to know of his dad through my memories. We will have been together almost two years to the date of the babies birth and that is not enough time. I am pretty sure it will be confirmed to be lymphoma,and just pray we caught it early.
I know you're scared
I'd be scared too. It would be beyond tragic if you lost him and your son lost his daddy before he even got to know him. I can't even imagine being in your shoes right now. Oh my heart is just aching for you. Here's a big heartfelt hug.
How long has he been sick? I hope they caught it early enough. I have no idea about a typical prognosis for lymphoma, but I'll just hope that your sweet love will fight the good fight and come out on top. Please keep us posted. I'll be praying for good news on Wednesday.
You'll get through this, no matter what happens. You're strong.
Congrats on the boy
Wow congrats on your baby. I really hope that it is not lymphoma. That would be horrible. My heart and prayers go out to you and yours. My husband is also my best friend and I couldn't imagine life without him or even the stress of thinking I might lose him. Please take good care of yourself!!!
Honey..
Try to remain positve for both your sakes.. I will pray that it can be treated and you will live happily ever after.. make the best of what you have today.. Congratulations on the Baby Boy... I like caitlyn was excited until I read your post..
I just lost my sdad to cancer and its a very sad thing to watch anyone even go thru whether its curable or not. I feel for you honey.. hang in there..
Lots of thoughts and prayers coming your way..
Happy
" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..
Don't give up
My mother is a cancer survivor, she also was diagnosed with lymphoma about 10 years ago, SHE IS STILL HERE !, the key I think was her attitude, she is like me and does not give up easily ( I guess I should say I am like her), she went through chemo, radiation etc..., it was tough, she was very tired all the time from the treatments but her attitude was " I am gonna beat this, I'm too damn mean and ornery to give up" and now she has been in remission for about 8 years, cancer free.
Don't let the disease destroy your hope, just keep a good attitude and don't accept any option but success.
Good luck and prayers sent your way !
My dear sweetthing
First of all, congratulations on the baby boy news. Secondly, I am so sorry about your husband being sick. I cannot imagine how tough it is on you being pregnant while having to deal with your sick DH. I pray that God will give you strength to deal with all that. When you feel down, just think of that precious little angel you are carrying and may that lift up your spirit always. Your DH will derive strength from your strength. I will be thinking about you and I wish your DH success in his treatment.
Keep the faith, sweetthing!
My step-brother was diagnosed with lymphoma about 15 years ago and he's cancer-free today. My mother also had breast cancer and is seven years cancer-free. Both were treated at Duke University Medical Center.
My brother's cancer involved a huge tumor in his hip the size of a football and it was wrapped around his hip joint. He went through chemo, of course, then an experimental radiation treatment in Seattle before it was finally shrunken enough to be removed. They took out the tumor and he also had a hip replacement at that time, since there was pretty much nothing left of the joint. He does have occasional problems related to after-effects from the radiation, but he is alive and has a long life ahead of him.
Research EVERYTHING. Get second, third, fourth, fifth opinions until you find someone who puts him on the path to wellness. He CAN beat this... just stay strong. Positive thinking is so important, so relish that new baby boy you guys are bringing into the world and don't lose faith. The "C" word isn't a death sentence like it used to be. Keep us posted!
~ Anne ~
Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)
congrats
Congrats on the baby hope all is well. So very sorry to here about your husband. Just keep thinking positive and remember we are all here for you and hundreds of prayers are going up for you and your family.
Take care and God Bless
Crystal
Congrat's on the baby boy!
I'm very excited for the news of your baby boy! My son is the love of my life! Like you, my dh is also my best friend.
Although I'm really excited about the baby news, I'm heartbroken at even the slightest thought of you losing your husband. I just don't even have any words to describe how my heart aches for you!
I will be thinking of you and praying for your husband's health and recovery. I really think Steamed and Anne are right, keep the faith! I'm so glad they were able to share their positive stories.
Please keep us posted, and I'm sending you the biggest hug!
Bests,
Candice
Oh My God.
I am shedding tears right now for you. This is way too bittersweet.
I can't deal with this kind of stuff. My friend's wife was told she had skin cancer while she was pregnant. She died when Matthew was 6 months old.
I am a big fan of God. I still don't know why things like this happen.
I will pray he will be ok. and so will the baby & you.
Best wishes and thoughts.
Jo
Thanks for all the good thoughts.
We have an appointment at the university's cancer center on Wednesday so hopefully they will have a plan of action starting with some sort of biopsy. DH is just so worn out. We had the kids this weekend, so that was a good thing even though it is rather tiring for both of us. Between worrying about him & how he is doing & money I am just about wore out.
Plus DH 's family never called him after he left the message after the ultrasound or the email with pictures of the ultrasound. I have spoken to them at the holiday to let them know about the baby & we went to the hospital a month ago when his mom had surgery. ( DH's family LOVE the ex & chose her essentially over him. He refused to spend the xmas holidays with his evil brother & we have had no real contact since) He is really hurting over this & I debate calling them to tell them that he is sick & to knock this shit off.
The baby is starting to let me know he is there more & more. I think someone should have told our son that it is supposed to be a fluttery feeling, he thinks that poking me is what he is supposed to be doing. The boys got a real kick out of that. They each got photo copies of the utrasound pics to take to school today, so I guess everyone that didn't know they have a step mom will after today.
They are so excited & talk about their baby brother a lot.
DH & I have to stop referring that we have the boys this weekend as we decided that our son will have a complex if we don't nip that in the bud. BTW we are nameing the baby Daniel.
Thanks again for all the support, this is such a rough time.
Def. get 2nd opinion
Please come to NY and go to Memorial Sloane if it is and get a second or third opinion....you're in my prayers..and like everyone else said...with today's knowledge and technology it's not like it was years ago....
As for the baby in the belly...Daniel...I used to put a napkin on my belly and watch the napkin fly up and down when she moved....I then graduated to a coffee cup by the eighth month..That was pretty stupid but I have memories!!! Hang in there.
Something nice about DH's ex
I had told her about DH being sick. She was really good about it. We were discussing SS braces because I need to hold off on our portion till we know where we are at. She is going to pay for both shares no strings attached. ( We will pay her back of course) Her & DH have been emailing back & forth today & she told him that if something happened to him that we would sit down & work out custody because I am important to the boys & that they need a relationship with their brother. ( He also discussed his life insurance situation- he was required to have enough for child support till they were 18 & there is enough that I can pay down mortgage so my house payment is affordable on my own, right now it would break me with daycare ect.)
DH is positive that he will beat whatever this is, but it is good to know we are all on the same page. It was also agreed that is the diagnosis is confirmed that the three of us will sit down & tell the boys. We also agreed that if DH is sick that we will start doing more things as a family ( us & ex, the boys already think mommy is my best friend, LOL) We all believe that would be the best since I am pregnant & will be somewhat limited in activities this summer.
Thanks again for being there!