Do the skids think your made of $$$??? I think mine do!!!
So we had our second weekend in a row w/the skids this past weekend. Again SD9 was still punished and not allowed to see her friend.. so there was little in the way of outright rule breaking.
This is also the second weekend in a row where we were asked WHEN would we be taking them back to Disney... Now. I am a huge Disney fan... I love going.. What I dont like is when it is expected that I will bring 2 children that tell me while they are there that they would rather be home sitting on the couch w/their mother...
let me back track to explain that we took them in August... of 2007! and they are already asking again.. and w/more frequency. This irratates me as, they dont appreciate it while we are doing it.. AND as a child, I NEVER asked my mother and father when they would take us.. we were thrilled just to be able to go when they told us we'd be going.
Its odd this sense of entitlement that these kids have.. that we are made of $$ and able to take them on vacations ea. year. Currently, my dh contributes $1000/mth to these kids.. that is $12k a year.. and trips to disney are NOT cheap.
I did mention to them as nice as could be for the 2nd weekend in a row that, "not all kids go to Disney... and you have been 2 times already (they are 9)" I also say, "Disney is expensive.. we'll let you know if/when we are going next" What I should have said is.. you know your 1/2 sister at your mom's house?? yeah.. she is NEVER going to get to go to Disney.. and you have been twice... (the bm is anti disney).. so count yourselves lucky and quit asking.
yours truly,
Bank of MA
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Just write a check
or go to the ATM. That's what the kids always tell me....If only kids actually grasped the concept.
But then again, SK's always tell me that BM tells them that she and SF have boxes of money stashed in their closet....HUH???
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"
It's my BD that I'm having this problem with
It's because of her dad - my ex. He tries to "buy" love and is teaching her the same thing. Sadly, he was able to buy mine for a while as well. But that's why he's now the ex. BD has been to Disney twice in California with him. She's just 10 and both trips have been in the last 3 years. Right now my BD, ex, his girlfriend and BD's friend are at an indoor water park / spa / lodge etc... Ex and his girlfriend take my BD to the mall to Libby Lu constantly for makeovers, buy her expensive jeans, take her to get her nails done all the time, she has an Ipod, Wii, Nintendo DS, Razor cell phone, you name it - all courtesy of dear ol' dad and girlfriend. Wow, I never got those kinds of things growing up. Now she expects me to do these things as well at my house. I refuse! I don't believe in spoiling a child that way. She gets gifts from me on holidays and her birthday - that's it.
The funny thing is he makes pretty good money, but doesn't have an ounce of savings. If I had my guess, most of this stuff he buys is going on his credit card. He had the nerve to call and ask me if I would allow him to claim her this year on taxes because he had failed to save enough this year to pay his out of state taxes. We rotate years claiming her and 2007 was MINE! We've been divorced for how long and he still can't get this right? I told him to stick it! Then he had the nerve to ask me if he could take BD out of the country with girlfriend to Mexico, then Jaimaca, the Nassau. Each time I've had to explain to him that she is still too young for this as he whines about it.
How do you fix this situation? I'm sure a lot of it is to make himself look good to the girlfriend.
consumerism is a tough thing to beat.
I think I'd change the subject and talk about camping or something.
Maybe you could get involved in some volunteer thing that involves the kids helping out people that don't have much.
I really think kids should learn that what's good in life does not come from the mighty dollar.