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Have I overstepped my bounds????

alwaysthemom's picture

Submitted by alwaysthemom on Thu, 04/03/2008 - 10:20pm

SD cries about wanting to move back to her moms. Mind you, she only does this when shes had a bad day at school or just wants attention. She has asked her dad if she can move back to BMs several times. He has told her several times absolutely not. SD has asked BM if she can move back and BM says I'll talk to you Dad about it. Bm has not once called DH to discuss this. I believe she tells SD this just to put the blame on DH and to shut SD up. Anyway, today, SD starts crying about not selling more on the school fund raiser and says, you guessed it I want to move back to my moms. At this time sick and tired of hearing it I say, Why don't you ask your mom how many times she has called your dad about that? I guess trying to take the blame BM has put on DH and turn it back on BM. So have I said too much? I wanted to continue on and say well just so you know your freaking can't do wrong mom gave you to us voluntarily and I have the papers to prove it. But of course I didn't.

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TheSaneOne's picture

Submitted by TheSaneOne on Fri, 04/04/2008 - 5:34am

Just say sweetie you have been through alot recently, I know you are upset and may feel abandoned by mom and seeking her approval but your parents both feel you are in the best place you can be. Let's give it some time, and try to work toward making this work.....I am here for you and so are your parents Smile

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Submitted by sarahbernheart on Fri, 04/04/2008 - 7:00am

we all snap at kids whether they are ours or theirs.
just let her know she needs to have the dad call the mom- with her there, maybe a three way call???
dont be too hard on yourself.

“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”

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Submitted by JaxStarryNite on Fri, 04/04/2008 - 10:32am

I think she needed to hear it, and even if it came out in the wrong tone, it needed to be said. As my Dh keeps telling me, 'don't beat yourself up about it, kids are more resilient than you think'.
I can really relate to your frustration, though. My SS thinks his mother can do no wrong, too. Regardless of the horrible things she says about Dh and I, the constant lies he/we catch her in, the denial of independence, etc....he still thinks she's angel.
I hope that some day if I have children, they think of me w/that same heavenly light...