BM got the proposed shared parenting plan .....and emailed that she wasn't agreeing to it
because it wasn't what she remembered discussing. DH wasted time and money for the attorney to draw up the papers. She sent an email that he needed to change a few things. DH already told the attorney that if she changed her mind...going to trial. She wanted it put in the parenting plan that the kids can change their mind in the future without going to court and no child support. DH will have 2 and she basically will have 1 but in writing 50/50. What nut case would believe any parent would agree to that!
Most likely the court date next month will be to set the trial date. Family court is really for the attorneys and not for the families. BM gets to do her PAS until DH gets them back in the middle of July. He has them 2 days before the court date.
BM doesn't want to pay CS of $193 a month. She claims she can't afford it. She makes almost 50k a year give me a break!
I wrote her back in the email and shared it with the attorney's. I basically told her good luck in court and if she loses all 3...she will be paying more than $193.
I think she is calling in his bluff and I would rather go to trial then to deal with her bull crap for the next 7 years.
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I agree with you
I think she is calling his bluff.... and waiting to see if he will back down. I would go ahead with the court date as well.
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Go to court, whats the worse thing that could happen??
DH goes in 50/50
Our county isn't biased against fathers. I believe that if a father fights for his kids that says something. DH isn't perfect but he teaches the kids to always tell the truth no matter what and has always put them first. BM never has and the kids are starting to finally realize that. That they can't count on her.
The attorney has lost 1 case in 8 years and BM's attorney has lost 2 cases in a row to DH's. BM can't be that stupid to put her life in public court. The attorney has picked up that she is trash and only in it for the CS and herself I am sure the judge will as well. If I were BM I wouldn't want a judge to ask my kids questions especially if the kids don't lie.
BM talked to one of the kids yesterday and told them that DH was taking her for CS and she didn't think it was fair and that he really needed to live with her. SS13 told her I am living with DAD!
Needless to say....she is pissed!
Keep tightening the screws.Every-time she wiggles tighten some
more. Get control, get it soon and use it to protect the best interest of the kids. This statement will likely start some disagreement but ......... it should never be about the parents "right to have a relationship with their kid" it should always be about what is best for the kid. Though the courts often run on the premise that it is "always" best for a child to have a relationship with both parents, I do not believe that is truly the case in every blended family situation.
If both parents are viable contributors to the child's life and best interests, emotionally, financially, and experiencially then both parents should have equal time and influence. If one parent is a more viable and positive influence than the other then the 50/50 perspective should skew to the parent providing the more positive influence and contribution and most importantly to the best interest of the kid.
Since your Skids BM is a self serving evil shallow humanbeing she should be taken to task DH and the court and the kids best interests preserved at all cost and to extreme cost for her. Just as would be the case if she was the positive influence and contributor and your DH was the detractor then BM should get the nod in court.
Good stuff goes to the good influence and most importantly to the kid. Bad stuff goes on the idiots. As it should be. Hopefully your Court will get it right.
I am good with that.
Best regards,
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications)