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Submitted by Wildchildhaz1 on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 10:39am

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Is it abuse if you go silent on someone because they threaten to kick you out of their house for bringing up their kids poor behavior then they say you are an abuser because you voluntarily left and refused to answer their calls for several hours/days afterwards?

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Submitted by crystaloo on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 12:15pm

No. However threatening to kick someone out for their home for attempting to address a child's poor behavior is abuse. His sh$tty kids are not nice and he has failed to parent them. It sounds like you've been gaslighted by a true abuser. They are masters of using smoke and mirrors and projection. Self love is the very most important things life. Love yourself lady and leave him.

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Submitted by EvieLou on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 10:55am

Er..... no. Rather they are abusing you threatening to throw you out of their home for acknowledging some home truths.  If you voluntarily left, what's the issue? Maybe you shouldn't go back though.

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Submitted by relationshipguru on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 10:58am

I agree. Leave and do NOT go back. The abuser has gaslighted you. Dump the d@ckhead. Block the c@ck. Run and do not look back. No one decent threatens to kick someone out of their home for this. 

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 10:58am

Accusing you of what they are doing is projection.  Making you question your sanity and experiences is gaslighting.  Either way you should not subject yourself to any more. 

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 11:02am

Shitty behavior has many titles. So if you want to call it abuse, and that makes you get the hell off the farm then its ABUSE.

Gaslighting  toxic shit head is what I'd call it.

Obviously the dick cannot handle how shitty his kids are, better to put your head in the sand. What an Ostrich. AND let him continue on his own, the "abuse" is done, take it no more lady.

Love yourself more

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Submitted by SteppedOff on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 11:05am

The further people, individuals, groups drifts from the truth and reality...the more they hate those who speak it and live it. Fact.

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 03/20/2021 - 8:57am

"The further people, individuals, groups drifts from the truth and reality...the more they hate those who speak it and live it."

Bears repeating.

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Submitted by Jojo4124 on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 11:21am

Projection. Abusers call normal ppl abusers to make them feel bad n reel them back in. They spew shame onto others to punish.

His kids are not nice, he throws you under the bus by not hearing you and defending you (thus his kids are priority), not willing to come up with solutions with you, threatened you with his 'power' (basically threatening your living situation that he feels he has power over and can just kick you out for not worshipping his children n being their abuse/bad behavior scapegoat)...plus harrassment. No concern or empathy for how YOU feel (scapegoats are not ALLOWED to have feelings or make waves)

Power n control. Abuse.