Do any of your Step kids look exactly like BM?
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My step sons look just like their BM and to be honest with you I don't see DH in either one of his kids. She was slutting around years ago and I don't see DH in none of their faces etc..
I try not to think about BM but when my SS's are over everytime I look at them it's like looking at her! Errrrr
Anyone else feel like this?
That's funny I told DH that as well!
"And this too shall pass..."
Yes...mirror image.
My SD9 looks exactly like BM, her eyes, her mouth, her laugh, and her BO! Its ridiculous. Drives DH/BF crazy too...
Funny
SD5 looks more like my own daughter than either DH's or BM's...
I'm hispanic, light brown skin, wavy/curly hair etc...
DH is white, blue eyes, light brown straight hair; BM is black, dark skin, etc...
SD5 has my same skin complexion, curly hair, etc... black eyes... she really looks hispanic!!!!! when we go out other hispanic people speak spanish to her, and she doesn't speak spanish obviously... lol
my BS1's biological dad is hispanic, BS and SD look like biological brother and sister, when they are not!!! so I'm glad for that... hehehe
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Two of my skids look exactly
Two of my skids look exactly like DH, but the last one looks exactly like BM and nothing like DH. There was always a question in the back of DH's mind because he wasn't very close to BM at the time she became pregnant and in an argument during their break-up, she blurted out that their last child was not his, then she retracted and said she didn't mean it.
To ease DH's mind, we bought an at-home DNA Test and mailed it in to make sure SS is indeed his. As it turns out, ss is his child (thankfully in the emotional sense).
In the back of my mind, I think I might have been hoping for a different result due to the problems BM is causing us right now, but I feel horrible about feeling that way.
Hey Instant-family
Where did you get that at home DNA test kit from? And how much was it?
Thanks
"And this too shall pass..."
I bought it in Walgreens
I bought it in Walgreens Pharmacy. It was $30 to purchase it, but to get the test results, it was a little over $100. But worthe the peace of mind. See link for the at-home test kit, it provides where they are sold.
http://www.dnatesting.com/
Wow Walgreens!
Cool.. Did you send a hair sample or what? I'm going to buy this today!
Thanks!
"And this too shall pass..."
No, you just rub something
No, you just rub something like a q-tip on the inside of the child's mouth and the parent's mouth, and fill out the paperwork and send it in. It takes three to five weeks to get the results.
Funny
when I first brought my stepsons over to my moms so she can meet her new stepgrandkids?. She was like "uh does DH know that the older one is not his!!" :O
"And this too shall pass..."
actually
both skids look just like their dad lol. It makes it sooo much easier to separate them from BM in my mind because they really are mirror images of their father. Of course BM hates that they look nothing like her
You are soooo lucky!!
"And this too shall pass..."
they both do
SS5 looks JUST like his mother (she is not around but I've seen pics)..he also has some features of his father though..Now SS2 looks NOTHING like my FH..and not even like BM..just chubby like her. A few people have mentioned that to FH..that he should get a DNA and he gets very defensive
my belly"
Half and Half
My husband's first two kids (with two different women) look just like him! They act like him and look like him! The second two look so much like their mother, it is crazy! The middle boy is his mother made over, the youngest boy is his father's personality with the face of his mother.
oohhh.. SD does!!!
SD9 looks, walks and takls like her mom. BLAH!!! DH says he wishes he could send her to some sort of school to make her NOT act like BM. lol SS6 though, is a spitting image of his father!! I will say that SD when she was a little younger could have passed for mine. Too bad she is growing out of that!
gross, yes, she's so ugly!
EWWW yes....buck teeth, bulging eyeballs, pointy nose, bad hair and all.
The SD looking like her mom
is nothing compared to the problems i have to deal with...
So I do not care if she looks like her... which she does...
Not his?
A few of them don't look a thing like DH and I wonder whose child support we've been paying!!!
Blueberry's Baby
Poor SD's...
SD15 looks exactly like her mom...and runs just like her too. Poor thing...she looks like a dufus. The older she gets, the more she looks like her (And is just as much of a manipulator and a liar!!) SD12 looks like BM too, but has her dad's blue eyes so she looks a little more like DH. Both SD's are short and bottom heavy though, just like BM. If they didn't work out like crazy people they would be overweight unfortunately. DH and I take good care of ourselves and are thin and in really good shape (we work out and eat healthy) but BM and the SD's eat terribly and are still chunky even though they are extremely active. Just bad BM genes, I suppose...too bad for them that "crazy" runs in her family too!
Yes I see both kids having
Yes I see both kids having some of BM's traits. Not just physical features but also attitude...especially with my SD. It really does get under my skin because while I know my SD takes after BM she goes out of her way to act and try to be just like BM.
All 3 boys
look like Dh's side of the family. SS 11 & BS 2 look more alike the SS 11 & 9. It's funny because BM think SS11 looks more like her, which is funny as SS11 is absolutely beautiful & BM is not. I made the comment once to MIL ( who likes BM as well) and she scuffed at it & said, nope he looks just like a "Smith" ( insert our last name) She said the "Smith" gene was predominant with her 3 boys & is with DH's... and I believe she is right. Each boy looks a lot alike except for the eyes. BS has mine & my fair skin where as his brothers are darker complected with brown hair like dad & their BM & BS has fair skin & blonde hair ( I am a red head, with fair skin.. but no freckles... think Marcia Cross coloring)
SS
Has his BM's eyes, facial expressions, and her secretive (sneaky, underhanded) personality-the rest is DH. Of course DH thinks of Zippy as his clone (NOT!!)and the most handsome teenager on the planet (again NOT).
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YEP!
SD13 can pass for BMs twin. They have the same facial features, complexion, hair, teeth, eyes, mannerisms and VOICE! Ugh. I have to remind myself that SD is a kid and NOT BM. Like really -- they could be twins. I worry what that will be for SD in the future though. BM has put on a lot of weight. SD loves to eat, so I can only hope and pray that she takes more after DHs side.
SS12 on the other hand has a few facial features and their family trait. People actually think he is my bio as he resembles me more complexion wise.
What's funny is that people assume I am bio before they do DH. WOW!
Anyone can take the easy way out and blame others. BUT it takes a a person of character to take a look at one's self and actions and own responsibility for their part. ~ ME ~ }:-P
SD 13 looks sooo
much like BM, she has the same facial features all though she has DH's face shape, she has several traits that are similar to BM(YUCK!) but she has her dads ecletic taste in music and his extremely sarcastic and funny sense of humor,(BM has no sense of humor:P) so even though she looks like her, those other traits help me to think of her as her own person and not a miniature BM -My SD 11 looks and acts exactly like DH! All though she has DH's facial features but BM's face shape, It's weird that they are the exact opposite?
So even though she's stubborn like DH she's also easy to love because when I look at her all I see is him.
SS9
My stepson doesn't look a lot like his dad. I would've had a hard time believing that was his son if he hadn't introduced him as such. His ex-wife had a lot of affairs and is suspected of even cheating during her bachelorette party. His mother is Hispanic/white with dark skin and curly thin hair. Her son has the complexion of a Hispanic only child. He has brown eyes and hair. He is supposedly 80% white. My children who are half white are lighter than he is and I'm full Hispanic. I wish I could do a DNA test on my stepson because there is a possibility he may have a different father. His mother introduces him to her boyfriends and tells him he has a new dad. Who knows what's the truth. His half brother doesn't look anything like him either.
My Skid is the spitting image
My Skid is the spitting image of his Spermidiot. Fortunately the only similarities are skin deep.