How to Handle This Situation
Situation being: DH has 3 kids....SD never comes to visit so she is pretty much out of the equation. SS11 has not been over for a month but he will make his grand return next weekend. (Joy Joy...can't freaking wait) SS8 comes EOW like he is supposed to. My dilema is this: I CAN NOT STAND SS11. This has been coming on for a while now...just seeing his face makes me angry. He is such a disrespectful lying BRAT! I do not want to have anything to do with him and I will NEVER do another thing for him. Now SS8 is a totally different story...I adore that child! He is what I would expect of a child of my own. Very polite and respectful...wants for NOTHING EVER! The kid would seriously eat a shit sandwich and ask for seconds if I said that's what we were having for dinner. He NEVER complains.....just a great kid. (It is TOTALLY obvious that he and SS11 have different BMs!!!!) Next weekend will be the 1st weekend they will both be over since the incident. I have no reason to be a jerk to SS8...he has done nothing to me. But I KNOW my attitude towards SS11 is not going to be pleasant. How do I handle this? I am thinking I will just keep my distance and try to be away from the house as much as possible....but I don't want SS8 to think that he has done something to make me angry with him. And I know I AM NOT going to be able to treat them the same....kinda hard when I don't even want to be around SS11!!! Any suggestions????
Why treat them the same?
Why treat them the same? SS11 should see that his behavior affects how he is treated. Treat SS8 the way you always treat him and ignore SS11. Tell him that you don't associate with people (children and adults alike) who are disrespectful.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
There is no way I will be
There is no way I will be able to treat them the same....but I am afraid that SS11 will be mean (well MORE mean) to SS8 if he sees the difference in my behavior. I could care less what he thinks of me....but if he takes it out on SS8...I might have to clobber his ass!
****I can do bad all by myself****
What does dh do when he is
What does dh do when he is mean to you / ss8? sounds to me like he should spend some time alone in his room with nothing to do.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
He bullies SS8 all the
He bullies SS8 all the time...is a smart mouth to him. But SS8 LOVES his brother and always does everything SS11 tells him because he doesn't want him to get mad at him and not play with him. He had not really done anything to me BEFORE the cell phone incident...then he told me he hates me and hopes that I die in a car accident. That was it for me...I mean his attitude has ALWAYS been crappy but other than pouting or whatnot...I haven't had an incidents with him. But now he has lied (IMAGINE THAT) and said that he was not the one that said that stuff (this was on FB). I don't care if he gets an attitude with me...I will bust his ass for him if he gets out of control with me. DH doesn't really do much because SS8 will say....oh it's ok or I didn't want to play with that brother can have it. DH has to tell SS11 to leave me alone all the time because he's always bitching about he wants this or he wants that and I get tired of hearing that crap!
****I can do bad all by myself****