Before I met my SO he had gone to court for child support since he had already had the boys for two years. She was ordered to pay $600.00. She has not paid jack squat. I am getting so frustrated because I see so many sm's on here who are struggling because the court is making their SO or DH pay an enormous amount and not even taking a second look. If my BM was a man she would have had her taxes taken away, checks taxed, and all the other ways child support gets the man. I hate the double standards. So recently she has been in my ss's lives and wanting to call herself their mother. She cut my ss3's hair into a bob like a girl. We were trying to grow it out to donate it like we did with my other ss7 and ss4. She cut it this past weekend and now he looks like Dora the explorer! Ugh so back to my point lol I get off track sometimes. He texted her and let her know I would appreciate it if you didnt touch ss3's hair. She said why I am his mother and I know whats best..............SINCE WHEN CRACKHEAD SINCE WHEN??? So he got upset and I told him everytime she reminds him she is their mother he needs to remind her she needs to pay child support. So he texted her and said you need to pay child support if you want to claim your motherhood. So she responds with when do you have time to get together and talk about it...........B**** you know what you have to pay sooooo why would you need to get together?? You want to ask how we can accept payment or what because that is the only possible thing we should discuss. So he told her we are not getting together and we already have child support solved contact the office. She sends back i dont know why you bring these things up if you dont want to solve them..............Again B**** it is solved just pay it. I hate that she is trying to wear the shortest dresses to pick up and drop offs, and wanting to get together. He has a restraining order on you why would you two be able to hang out?? God grant me patience