I"M SO CONFUSED!!!
Last weekend when I got into an argument with my SD, she immediately, expectedly, called BM to bitch about me and how horrible I am. BM called my DH and asked to find out if we would meet her half way to exchange SD - DH said "you don't pay child support so I don't have to meet you anywhere". She responded that SD would just stay with her then, so DH told her that he'd just call the police on her if she doesn't return SD for school.
Today, we got the mail and there was a check for $100!????! Did the threat of being arrested really make this stupid ass finally cough up some money?????????!!!!!!! If I knew that the threat of police involvement would get her to do the right thing, I would've have used that against her a long time ago!!!!
Evidently BM is terrified of the police getting involved and I don't know why. When she first gave us custody in August, she told SD that she couldn't see her because we had a RO against her????? We didn't have an RO against her - we had no reason to have one against her. We filed an for an emergency custody hearing and received an Ex Parte Relief Order saying that we had full custody for 90 days until court - that was it.
I think next time she starts mouthing off I'm gonna threaten to call the cops on her. HAHAHA!!!!!
There's got to be something
There's got to be something there then. I bet she's in trouble, has a warrant, etc and just doesn't want the cops to get involved because they will put her no good but behind bars! LOL!
Ahhhh, you have just figured
Ahhhh, you have just figured out that you have POWER!!!!
So often, biodads think that they have no power over the BM who is making their life miserable. But eventually, some of them figure out that by laying down boundaries and refusing to let BM step over them, that they find they have more power than they think. This happened with us. Sounds like you just won round 1.
Sit down and make a simple list of clear boundaries, and how you will enforce them -- like you did with this one by "accident." Then little by little, start putting the boundaries in place. A year or so from now, you'll probably find your life has improved somewhat, and BM is less of a constant wart on your a**.
BB
You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved
Yes, and she doesn't have
Yes, and she doesn't have any warrants or legal issues at this time. She has had in the past, several lawsuits against her for 1. Trashing the apartment she lived in with DH when she moved out 2 years later and 2. Stiffing her own sister on rent for a house they rented and she moved out 1 mo. into the lease dumping her responsibility for the remaining 1/3 of the rent on her sister and their roommate. (She got away with that one sadly enough).
She has no speeding tickets, misdemeanors, or felonies that I'm aware of. I speculate that it is one of 2 things: 1.)her job, but I don't get that because she's blowing the boss and her job isn't like some top secret high security position. 2.)the fact that her son used to work @ 911 Dispatch and everyone she knows has a scanner...perhaps she's afraid she won't be able to lie her way out of the 911 call over the scanner.
I wish there was some legal issues and it's not necessarily above me to help her with that.