So I've been the one the deal with SD16 forever - the passive aggressive behavior, the flat out rabid animal aggression from her, the demanding, the expecting and the blaming, the anger!
Let me back up a week....last week we went back to court and SD16 decided that she preferred to live with the mother that ditched her to move in with a man (and now we hear they are being kicked out???).
After everything SD has put us through, I am thankful to not have her in my house. She is too much for me to handle and my marriage would dissolve if she came back.
So I have disengaged because I don't have to continue dealing with her anymore. She is my DH's daughter, it's his turn.
This evening she asked her father if she would be able to HAVE the computer that we permitted her to use exclusively while she was living here. He said no, because the arrangement was that she had access to that while she was here, beit visiting or living. It was not purchased for her to take with her and that now that she lives with her mother, her mother can provide her with a computer. (This is part of the tough love lesson lil bitch needs)
She kept trying to get him to feel sorry for her via text and pull on daddy's heart strings, but it didn't work out for her. He gave her his decision and told her that's how it was. She hung up on him and then texted back that she wasn't going to come visit next week and that she'd have the rest of her "shit" out by the end of the month - as if she had a lease and we couldn't just put her stuff out tonight if we wanted.
I said to DH "this is how she is, this is exactly what she does and now you get the taste of it." So we were going to take her to an amusement park on Sunday and have the tix already. So instead we invited her sister-in-law (DH's 2nd oldest child's new wife and son). We would rather give her the ticket and have fun with her and her 2 yr old then deal with a miserable 16 yr old that doesn't like amusement rides anyway.
I feel vindicated in the fact that he now gets a taste of what I have dealt with for the past 12 months.
It turns out that SD contacted her sister-in-law and told her that DH called SD and told her that he didn't want anything to do with her anymore. REALLY????? He never said any such thing and um, where the F*** did that come from??? Over a COMPUTER!!!???? Meanwhile, I was text messaging with the sister-in-law and she told me this. I feel bad for DH. His daughter is a mental case. She thinks people don't talk and that the truth doesn't ever come out, but of course if it did she would come up with another lie or something to make her look less Psycho! I feel bad that he is now seeing this for himself. I think he has been protected inadvertantly from seeing his daughter as a lying, self-serving, psychotic spoiled bitch.
I can sleep tonight knowing that I had nothing to do with this happening. Our lives will be so much better once she finally stops including us in her lies!!!!