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Just told DH to either shape up or SD or both ships out ..

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SD12 has a math test she has known about since last Monday to study for and it is tomorrow. ive let DH know about it..and tonight after me telling him that she has a test and she hasn't studied, 20 mins after he told her to go study...she goes to study...yah right into my bedroom to watch tv.. DH went out for a min, i catch her ( I just happened to need something in my room) and tell her that im telling DH and the tv is being disconnected from the room..she freaks out that im disconnecting the tv( i was unplugging the cable box) and says everything, i told her i don't care what she thinks of me and quite frankly i couldn't care less ( I know mean but ive had it with her and she says so horrible things to me that i just honestly don't care and dont care if she knows it or not--took everything in me not to tell her that i hated her ) ... i tell her to leave my room, she wouldn't, i tell her again to leave my room and she doesn't so i physically remove her from the room ( i never hurt her by no means, she was standing next to the door and i simply removed her ) so i guess cps will be at my door tomorrow and they can take her if they wants......

told DH when he got home what she had done and told him this talking to her doesn't work , that rules are to be enforced by disclpline and if he doesn't do it, well he will know what happen next. HONESTLY i think he would have her already gone for the fear of what "mommy and daddy will think" kind of shit. UGH i am so sick of it!!!!!

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he basically admitted to me the reason why he hasn't "layed down the law" with her is cause he is afraid of her calling cps again ( 1 yr ago she called said he was beating her up...which was proven to be a LIE) and having our sons removed ... so i don't think he cares about her being removed.. just our sons...

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so i said to him i dont care, she knows that has worked for her in the past, and she is using it to manipulate her ways to get what she wants.....tada... she rules the roost......UGH why cant hubby just fucking clue up!!!!!

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Yeh - he needs to turns the tables on who's in charge or it will only get worse. Good luck to you and good job standing your ground.

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I know right!! im so sick of it and im sticking it to him next time.. i understand his fears about having my son taking away but im jus so sick of living in pure hell.. this is my house too!!

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You are right! IF i was to beat her, i tell you right now she would be SCARED to call cps!!! i would never lay a hand on her ( as much as i want to) nor my own son. the only thing i am quilty is of is treating her like my own child.. ive done to much for her....TOO much and now i couldnt give a hoot.. she always said before that as a excuse when this baby comes that she is afraid she gonna be left out,etc.... like her mother did to her when she was younger...we always assured her that was NOT going to happen and i wouldnt of done it..and i would have treated her the same as my own born.. but i tell you this now.. she got her wise cause my children are getting ALL of my attention and time and she doesnt even get a second glance from me anymore.. im just so darn sick of her manipulations,lies and temper tantrums!!!