So steps have been mostly toxic because they learned from my toxic-in-laws. Stuck around here long enough with the mil getting in my face "what gies around cones around" lots if times as if I'm supposed to guess what horrible thing I did that offended her. Now her dear superior grandkids /mybstepkids are grown and guess what,having all kind of toxic in law birth mothers and step kid issues. So guess my toxic in law who creAted toxic stepdads for me was right after all!