My DH and I have a BS1 and a SD5. The MIL thinks that she is the SD mother! The BM has 4 other kids from, get this, 4 OTHER MEN, no HS diploma and minium wage job. I on the other hand did what I had to do, went to college and grad school to be a productive person. In the beginning, three years age before my BS1 the MIL (a controling, not attractive, minimum wage worker) was nice to me. One my DH proposed to me she changed. The SD5 has never been to school and I even taught her to spell her name!!! (keep in mind there is nothing wrong with BM, MIL or DH that she shouldn't have known the basics. MIL and DH want me to be SD5's MOTHER, but don't demand this from BM (who gets a great deal of CS from DH, the only of the 4 FATHERS that pays her.

I came into this to be with DH, I understood he had a child, but she is NOT mine or my responsibility. SD5 rolls eyes, makes faces, and says things when DH and MIL are not around. When they are around she is "babyfied" and naive! They don't take the time to teach her anything educational or productive.

My actions were to disengage especially once I had our BS1. MIL does absolutly NOTHING for BS1. He is the sweetest boy ever. MIL doesnt call, come see, pick-up or anything. But when it comes to SD5 she is always with her.

Before our wedding I called MIL to have a woman to woman talk about the mean things she says about me, the way she treats our BS1, and how she favors (but is crippling) SD5. She didn't respond to MY 20 min convo that I feel like I had alone. The same week was our wedding. MIL did NOT say a word to me at our wedding or til this DAY!!!

On Father's Day (also my Birthday) I planned to take DH out as it was our first as a married couple with BS1. He agreed, but when MIL called (and had already picked-up SD5) and said they were going out, DH blew our plans and left me and BS1 home.

DH wants MIL and I to sit and talk, but she refuses and he is okay with that. I can't stand MIL and am not SD5's mother and don't want to be.

What should I do???????