Random thoughts
HCBM had a medical emergency. As much as my life would be better without her. The entire time I am praying she is ok. Not because I give a flying furry about her, but because if anything happens to her, OSD will have no place to go and I do not want her back here.
If it was a year ago when she still had a chance to change, I would have been okay with it. But this is a kid who is not welcome in any if her own relatives homes because of her behavior and it's obvious that she doesn't see the common denominator in her failed relationships is her.
I just dont have the strength to deal with her behavior and the added problems it causes with YSD. Nor do I want to deal with living in a toxic environment. YSD has her own set of issues but at least I find them manageable and can empathize with her.
I hope she stays healthy for at least 3 more years until OSD is an adult.
Oh I hear you. Something
Oh I hear you. Something happening to BM would suck sooo bad.
Nothing happened to our BM.....
Nothing happened to our BM but all 3 kids landed here anyway.... just saying.....
We have one 24/7 I can't
We have one 24/7 I can't handle another one. It be different if SO was an effective parent but since he isn't. One is more than enough.
Tolerable
The only thing that made it tolerable here is that I had 2 kids and it was advantageous for us to stay here, good school, nice friends on the street and DH was a good, effective father figure, especially for my son who was having some problems. I really feel for the step-parents who have no bios. There was a reciprocity here that got us through. On my own, I'm not sure what would have happened and it was touch and go, anyway.