Both my SSs play baseball and we always go to games, regardless of whose night it is. Practice is different. We do not go to those on her night, just so our night isn't jeopardized. Now we do miss games from time to time and use the excuse of work or whatever, but it is few and far between and to just have a normal dinner or chill on the couch that night. 

Unless the venue is extremely small.. there is really no reason why he "has" to stay away on her week for scheduled games.  Yes.. practices are different, but he could still go to the games and just sit in a different place than her.  He doesn't even have to talk to her really...

Now, if he is looking for an excuse to not have to attend so many games.. this would be a reasonable split.  but I might expect to see that BM attends games onHIS week..lol and she has every right to.

Even in intact families, parents do not go to every game.  Parents have jobs, other kids, etc. I know one divorced parent whose custody agreement spelled out that the parent with the parenting time would be able to sit on the home side, the other parent had to sit on the visitor side (I cannot even make up this stuff).  I agree with PP, unless a restraining order in effect, you cannot stop other parent from coming to public event.  What is important to me, is that dad talk to the kid, make certain kid understands that dad is interested, and will attend many games. 

BM in our situation went to every single practice and every single game. DH and I went occasionally to SS's games, regardless of whose night it was.  BM was always there, of course, but we never spoke.

Funny story: Right after we got married, at a game,  BM paraded by us on the arm of her boyfriend, wearing a plaid school-girl skirt and sparkly red shoes, trying to show us what a happy family they were, too!  Meanwhile, behind her on the field, SS had been punched in the stomach and was writhing around on the ground.  If she hadn't been so intent on showing us she was sooo happy with her BF! she would have undoubtedly run out on the field to play MOTY.  She never even noticed and left without even talking to SS (it was our night).  We laughed a lot about that.

Whatever way he wants to handle it will be fine. I did sports throughout high school and my family came to maybe one game a year and there was no conflict.

If he wants to go to every game then go. Ignore BM, sit somewhere else, and if she starts crap call the police. Of course by crap I mean something more than rolling her eyes and saying stupid stuff under her breath when you walk past.

If he feels better going only on his weekends then fine but recognize that doesn’t mean BM won’t also come to those games. Unless a court order says otherwise they can both go to whatever events they want.

So what is his plan when she shows up to games on his parenting time? Not attend any games?

What's his plan for his son's graduation? Move in day at college? Wedding? Other school events where there is ONE event, not multiple?

Your DH needs to develop better coping mechanisms to deal with these events other than "not attend". He doesn't have to sit with her. He doesn't have to talk to her. But he made a kid with her and, barring abuse, that means he will sometimez be in the same place as her. Better to figure out ways to make that bearable now when he has multiple times to test/practice his strategies versus being thrown into a situation he can't miss.

Maybe if both your DH and BM don't want to see each other then they can do the schedule where each only go to games on their weekend. But, you will run into this issue for everything your skid is involved in. In my situation, DH will want to go to almost all the skid events whether its our week or not and BM almost never goes to any event. I'm the one that prevents him from doing certain events when it's not our week (that usually includes some intramural sports games - I don't think of them as special), but that's for completely different reasons. He has a toddler that he needs to help me with and he has other responsibilities too. It's just too much with all the skid activities and it makes me angry.

My DH doesn't mind seeing his ex. They don't talk to each other and they definitely don't sit close to each other at any events. I think DH acts super awkward when she tries to talk to him. I'm the one that will usually try to avoid an event if I know BM will be there. But, I'll always go to the big stuff whether BM is there or not. I was introduced once and I never talk to her.

I looked at your previous post and it sounds like the BM is cray-cray.

Will she insist on trying to sit next to SO at these events, or will she stay away?

I think he should go if he wants to, but bring a recording device in case she tries to start drama.  Depending on how crazy she is, point the device at her and tell her to stay away, or just record any tantrums she has.  Beware of false allegations.  

Maybe talk to the non-emergency PD beforehand and see if DH can send her a certified letter asking for no in-person contact, and copy the PD on the letter.

If he doesn't want to go to all the games, that's okay, it doesn't make him a bad parent.  Lots of the sports parents here take turns driving carpool and only attend events on their driving day.

My SO’s daughter plays softball. SO signed up to be a volunteer coach when she signed up for the team. He goes to every game and practice, so far I have also attended every game. We have the girls 50% of the time so we go to the games even on our off weekends. Does it suck to see his high conflict ex wife?- absolutely, I personally can’t stand seeing her and I know he can’t as well. And yes it sometimes sucks going to these games when we are supposed to be kid free, but I can’t stop him from being a dad. My advice would be, unless there is a court order in place addressing this, that you and you’re SO should just do what you feel is right in this situation. If he wants to attend the games even on his off days, he should. If he doesn’t, then don’t. 

hah that lazy fat waste of space would never have a game, meet or anything of the sort.  But on the positive side, it saves DH a lot of time and money that his feral offspring does nothing but play his x-box. DH attends my kids' swim meets/cross country meets and ex-H has to deal with that. Of course, at some point it can be a relief, to not spend one's entire weekend at kids' sports events...

Nope. He should go to whatever games he wants even if she is there. Sounds like jealousy. 

My ex started this b/c his wife is jealous A-hole and doesn't want him around me. I think it's actually sad for the kids that he only attends on his parenting time. I ended up doing the same....although I do NOT think it is the right thing to do on a regular basis.

I think your DH should attend how ever many games he wishes to attend. 

It *is* possible to do this without “seeing” BM and her family. It may take some practice, but he *can* do it.

Simply put, he just shows up to his son’s game and avoids scanning the crowd. That way he’s never aware BM and/or her family is in attendance or not.

What is BM going to do? Make a royal ass of herself and demand he cannot attend? If so, I say let her. Let her see how well that goes over with the coach, the other player’s parents, and her own child.