I will try to make this short and sweet I have been apart of my stepson's life for 5 years, since he was 2 almost 3. My husband was young when he had his son and the bm even younger. My stepson has been bounced around from house to house his whole life. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and live in a home for slightly longer. Everything has been consistent at our home such a balanced diets, video game time, bed times, homework etc. BM has been in and out of several guys houses( DSS has moved 9 times). She now resides with her mother again. So he goes in between her house, our house and my MIL 's house. Of all three, we are the most consistent and structured. We have him about 10 to 14 days a month.

My step son has been coddled his whole life at my MIL s house. She still wipes his butt, he still sleeps with her while my FIL sleeps in a twin bed in their closet, he constantly is feed fast food and other junk, plays unlimited video games and has no responsibilities. They constantly buy him whatever he wants because they feel bad for him.

So here is the issue.....

He has a terrible anxiety about throwing up and constantly complains of his stomach feeling wired. Everyone thinks I'm crazy for blaming his diet, he only eats fruits and veggies at our house. He had x-rays done of his stomach and they couldn't find anything wrong. This all happened wheb his mom was pregnant.

I had my first child and this non-sense starts again. We do not coddle him when this happens and we tell him he is okay, give him water and make him lay down. He overreacts when he gets this feeling!

Now he doesn't want to come over because we make him eat a balanced diet( I'm not a health but my any means) and make him do basic chores( make his bed, dust 2x a month and pick up his toys)

My MIL think children should not have any responsibility. DSS always wants to go to her house..... Wonder why?

It's so stressful! I feel like I'm getting anxiety from this whole situation and it is causing a HUGE strain on my marriage. I can't stand my Coddling MIL! She blames the whole thing on me! BM and I are taking him to see a phych because we are fed up with his actions. Well just found out that my MIL is going.

Sorry for the long rant but I feel like I am going crazy and missing out on raising my 12 week old because we are always dealing with this.