Taking children out of the country without father's permision
I've got a question and I'm hoping someone has encountered this situation before.
Here's the background. Every other year FH and BM switch spring break with kids. Last year BM took SS 15 and SD 13 on a cruise. Therefore, it should be our year to have the kids for spring break. 2 weeks ago, SD came over and told her dad that they were going on a cruise for spring break and that her mom already booked it. FH had heard nothing previous about a cruise and we were planning on taking the kids out west to go skiing. FH told SD that we were making plans for spring break and that they had gone on a cruise last year over spring break. Subject was dropped. Several nights later after SD went back to BM. FH receives phone call where BM declares that she's taking the kids and that's that. FH is furious that she can just demand and declare without any consideration. He sends her an email stating that the adult thing to do would of been to discuss with him prior to telling the kids and that they could of worked something out. Due to her lack of communication and responsibility (she's pulled several other things...it's an ongoing battle) he would not be giving her permission to take the kids out of the county. Today, he gets an email stating "I just wanted to let you know that we will be gone with the kids from when spring break starts to when it resumes. Trip will be awesome and rare experience and kids are excited because they are able to bring friends etc.
So my question is~can she legally take the kids without his permission? There's a constant battles about time, divorce decree is very vague. It was our thanksgiving this year and she called and said that the kids would just meet us at FH's mom's house at dinner and then after dinner could leave so they could have dessert with her...She took the kids to Arizona last year at thanksgiving for a week and told us a few weeks prior to leaving. Christmas is the same battle every year. Basically she has the kids whenever she wants and we are suppose to sit home and wait for them. We make plans and arrangements and at the last minute she changes her mind. I'm so frustrated with it and so is FH.
Pretty sure he wouldn't stop kids from going but wants them and her to understand that you can't just decided your going to do something without talking to others and that you have to play fair.