First off I want to say thank you for your advise in the past. I think taking a step back has given me clarity as well as him clarity of what I am willing to take in a relationship. With everything that has gone on he has gotten on a parenting plan with the ex and although not all is perfect it is more predictable. The youngest two do not do any overnight visits and the older two do overnight visits. It is a 2-3-2 sort of schedule. The yougest girl stays during the day and goes back at night and the baby gets 4 hours during the day when the others are there. (he is being breastfed)

After him showing improvement and willingness to adjust, we have decided to date again. I know what I don't want in a relationship which is most of what I read here. My situation is a bit tricky as my SO and his ex own businesses together and they do work together. I also know how much years of building his business to the point where he can be semi-retired in his mid thirties means to him. He absolutely does not want to give that up. This is the part that is hard for me honestly; it is also where we have a bit of an comprimise to make.

I know in reality there isn't much in person interaction. They both mostly work from home and the businesses are at a point where he just has to oversee rather than do a lot of heavy lifting. But even still it is still their business and they communicate almost daily if not daily about it depending on what is going on. Due to everything going on I have been on the listening end of some of there business meetings and they have been daily, some days multiple times a day meeting over the computer sometimes just the two of them but most times with other staff. He says that it is unusual amount of communication and they are strategising due to loss of revenue in this time. He has even invited me to listen in and watch. However I feel like that sets the tone that I don't trust him and I do trusts him; also it makes me look insecure. Also I don't want all his staff and the ex to think that I am controlling, insecure and minding their business. But to be fair I am eavesdropping because I am so curious and maybe a bit insecure.

I do know, I love this guy I really do. He is so positive always motivating me and inspiring me to go after the things I want. He is the most positive person in the world. I don't want my insecurity to ruin this espescially since he has really step up in a lot of other areas that I wanted him to. What do you think should I listen in or not? Is that weird and showing me up as insecure?