I'm a mom of 1 and 1 on the way, a step mom to 2! My step sons are 12 and 10 I've been in their lives for 4 years! We have always had the same rules in our home. My 10 year old step son is AWFUL for breaking rules, he has locked up iPads, spent money on iPads, laptops, tv's. We have taken away ALL electronics from him except the tv in HIS room (that has a million child locks). It doesn't stop at electronics, he DESTROYED our lawn mower and weedeater by putting water in the gas tanks after being told not to touch them. He does this at our home and at his moms house. We are all on the same page with punishment and rules for him. He knows his real mom and his dad (my husband) have a hard time disciplining him because they both work ALOT so he spends more time with me (step mom) and his Step dad than he does his biological parents. He's clearly stated he acts up when his mom and dad are around because they allow him to get away with more things than myself and his step dad do. Which causes HUGE arguments between me and my husband and his mom and her husband. We are ALL at our wits ends with his behavior. We have tried a million things to make him listen and behave but he just refuses. We have taken him to doctors over adhd, ocd and his anger problems after SEVERAL DOCTORS they all said he has no mental issues it's all just behaviors. Our 12 year old doesn't want to be in the same house as him because he destroys his things. He lies, hides and steals things. He has said he doesn't want the new baby to come because he won't be the youngest boy anymore. HELP I AM AT MY WITS END with him!