Would like some serious input on this please.

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Would anyone have any idea what could be wrong with my SD 29 please.

Now I have had some really funny responses to what I am about to tell you from friends and family, but I think there is something not quite right with this woman and wondered if anyone had come across this type of thing before and understands what the problem is.

Last year she announced that her brother wanted to join the police force, and he was watching all the police shows on television so he would be good at it. I laughed and she gave me the dirtiest look, but then she hated me making any sort of noise in my own home anyway, I guess because it reminded her I was still alive.

However, to give you some history, she started nursing in 2004, and after the first year of doing 3 months in 4 different areas of the hospital began working in the Recovery Ward in 2005 where she has remained ever since.

She is on maternity leave at the moment and announced to my husbands entire family, and in front of her brother (who never did become a policeman), and her fiance' that she would like to go back to work part time and just so she didn't lose touch with the medical side of things she is watching All Saints to keep up with the latest techniques.

All Saints is a tv show in Australia set in a hospital, it finished in 2009, so she is clearly watching re-runs on Foxtel. My sister in law at first thought she was joking, but she was absolutely not. Not only is she watching this fictional show to keep up with the latest medical techniques, she is proud of herself for doing it.

Apart from the above, which concerns me because it affects the health and well being of others, she has a very narcissistic personality, and never ever will accept she does not know something or she is wrong. An example would be when my husband was in hospital she proclaimed loudly in front of all that someone on the floor was seriously ill, and that was why we could hear this beeping in the corridor, this seriously ill person was on a heart machine. Never mind we were on the Uriology floor and the cardiac unit was a floor beneath us. On the next beep I asked her if that was the noise she was referring to, she said it was and I simply said, no, it's okay, that is just the call monitor outside the nurses station. Now it really was the call monitor - however, she did not check it for herself, she did not ask anyone about it, she simply went off like a fire cracker, and shouted at me "I am a nurse, I think I would know what I am talking about". She was so angry, and I was totally shocked so I just left it alone. Immediately she picked up the nurses call button at my husbands bedside and announced she was going to show her father how to use it.....Well, she didn't know that the big button on top with the picture of a person on it was the call button. Her fiance had to take it out of her hands after she had turned off the tv and moved the bed up a couple of times.

Now I already have concerns about a hospital that would keep this type of person working with unconcious patients in recovery for 6 or 7 years, and there is really nothing I can do about the hospitals staffing standards. But I would like to know if anyone has come across this and if there is some sort of mental health condition she may have because watching re-runs of a fictional tv show in order to keep her nursing skills upto date concerns me. I have nothing to do with her anymore, but my sister-in-law may be able to talk to her. No one has told her father about this as he will only become angry defend her, and this just makes her worse because every time daddy backs her up, she honestly believes she is in the right, so he is only making things much, much worse for his daughter. Everyone is laughing at her behind her back which probably isn't fair but no one is doing anything about it, and belive me, it is not my place my opinion would fall on deaf ears, but as I said someone else in the family if we can get an answer may be able too.

Thanks Druzzilla, I have had

Thanks Druzzilla, I have had a look at NPD before, and you are confirming what I had suspected, I just thought that maybe I was being harsh on her because I cannot get along with her. Her manipulative behaviour and the way she bullies her father, brothers, fiance and tries to bully me is something I cannot tolerate in my home. Nor can I stand the way she would sit her and praise her self up, put down everyone she knew, family, friends, collegues, patients. On one occassion she was giving a serve to a gentleman who had sat down at the table next to her and her fiance at a restaurant, he apparently had asked a question about a food item, and said to the waiter, sorry I'm from California and we don't have that there. SD went on forever telling us how he didn't have to say that, he was just showing off, he wanted everyone in the restaurant to take notice of him blah, blah, blah, blah.

On saying this, I have just remembered was here one night and we were watching an animal show. A young couple had taken their dog to the vet for treatment, they were so happy that the dog was okay, and they were saying, we have 2 dogs, and we love our dogs. SD immediately made the comment, "Those two can't have kids, everyone who loves their dogs can't have kids." I looked at her, her fiance and her father didn't even turn their heads, and I just instinctively knew to pick my battles and this wasn't one of them - see she even has me frightned of her. I knew she meant it, but after reading your post, I really know that she meant that and all the other things (all negative) she has said about people on tv. She made a comment one night when the family of one of our top brains surgeons was being interviewed, they were a happy family, laughing etc., it was videoed shortly before the surgeon himself died of brain cancer..her comment.look at them they're not happy, they're just pretending to be. When I asked her if she knew who that man was, she said sharply NO! I explained who he was and how he died, she went red in the face and snapped, well how am I supposed to know. I thought she was just a smart bitch, who was showing off trying to get attention, but I guess she was trying to get attention, but because she really does have this personality disorder.

Bat shit crazy LOL. I guess the problem for me is how do I get help when obviously she and her father won't acknowledge there is a problem. I think my husband also has some issues and have done for the last couple of years. Her fiance' obvioulsy knows something is wrong, and he did ask my husband to help get her to see someone, but my husband refused because he didn't want to get her angry by suggesting she needed some mental health care.

It's a lot scary! Makes me

It's a lot scary! Makes me wonder about people with God complexes and their motives for becoming doctors, and the less confident ones becoming nurses. Hell's teeth! I watch the show 'house' because it's hillariously funny but in no way do I believe that the 'practices' that go on during the show are real!
Even with reality shows, hospital or not, they are EDITED! Come on!
I just hope and pray that she does no harm actual to a living patient!

So, in her mind, since I

So, in her mind, since I watch Grey's Anatomy I could totally go into a hospital tomorrow and pick up a scalpel? Wow! All those people in medical school are such suckers!

No she's not Druzzilla, she

No she's not Druzzilla, she did a 3 year course (took her 4 years though), and daddy paid for all of it.

Yeah, The-stepmonster, and I

Yeah, The-stepmonster, and I am giving up dieting, in favour of watching a re-run of next top model.

See, this is what I said in my post, there are a million and one funny responses to this, and I think family and friends pretty much covered them. My sister in law has an ulcer in her eye at the moment, so she is going to watch the Fred Hollows (renowned eye surgeon here), advertisements and fix her eye. My friend watched Bold and the Beautiful yesterday and is now fearing turning into a bit of a tart, me I'm thinking of studying Judge Judy and becoming a judge But the scary thing is the unconscious people she is treating and if no one in the hospital has picked it up in 7 years, they're not going too. Unless, fingers crossed, they use the maternity leave to put her out of recovery and onto the wards and she will leave because I forgot to mention before she has a germ phobia. She would not sit in the visitors chair at the hospital because she did not know who had sat in it before her and she might have gotten germs, so her fiance sat in it first, stood up and gave her the chair, which she then sat in.

Not being in that profession,

Not being in that profession, I would think they would have to monitor her before letting her deal with patients on her own. In all seriousness, type of negligence should be blatant and even if she passed her classes she should not be left to fend for herself right away. In the end, I firmly believe the truth will prevail.

I think she is in an open

I think she is in an open room with other recovery nurses, but they have a one on one situation with their allocated patient. So I have always assumed that when you are in recovery you are hooked up to monitors so if an alarm went off everyone in the room would know. Well I've hoped that anyway. Given that she has been working in the same hospital in the same department for 7 years, I am wondering how much monitoring she does get. This is a Melbourne teaching hospital, so maybe they don't care about one more trainee type person on the floor. Don't know really.

This is how I feel about BM

This is how I feel about BM to an extint, she has no commen sense when it comes to basic illness or nutrition of her own child how can she possiably be in charge of care for people who are seriously ill. Its sad that women like this are everywhere practicing medicine....U.S to Australia....it's terrifying

Mmmm, it is terrifying, more

Mmmm, it is terrifying, more concerning their supervisors are not picking it up.

With unconcious patients,

With unconcious patients, there is no negative feedback? You are probably right that she would not make it on the wards, she'd have to prove herself competent or get fired!

I can't stop laughing. She's

I can't stop laughing. She's a loony toon. You can't fix her. When she's around, pull up a comfy chair, sit back and enjoy the show.

Oh, come on Disneyfan, that's

Oh, come on Disneyfan, that's not nice Funny, but not nice. I have to be truthful though, when my sister in law told me, I didn't believe her, she had to convince me it was true, and yes we both cracked up with laughter. As did my friends and family ( so I wasn't so nice myself yesterday passing this along for a laugh), But, then I realised if it wasn't for the job she was in, this would be funny, but people are at risk with her. Thinking after reading a couple of postings here that she really does have NPD and will tell my SIL to check that one out. SIL is lucky, she lives in country Victoria, she has no fears of winding up in this Melbourne Hospital, me on the other hand would put myself on an ambulance by-pass list to this one if a list was available, trust me. It's scary stuff.