Need some advice. My adult ss20 is a piece of work. He is an entitled, selfish kid whose mother pays his way in life (hence no need for him to work) and uses his father monetarily whenever he can. He has no relationship with his father and attacks his character as a father regularly (usually on Facebook through his statuses) and then when he wants or needs something, guess who he calls? Yep, his father. He "hates" his father because we won't let him freeload off of us. We are going to Florida for our nephew's wedding at the end of the month. My DH asked me if it would be okay if he bought adultss20 and adultsd25 plane tickets. I didn't want to, but I didn't object mostly just to keep peace with DH. Recently, he wanted to buy ss a suit for the wedding. I disagreed and objected to that. Well, DH went and bought him one anyway because he said he (DH) didn't want to be embarrassed at the wedding. I would not have been embarrassed in the least. His ss should be the one who is embarrassed. Anyhow, that's a whole different story. Well, sd ended up getting her own ticket with her boyfriend because she wanted to take a different flight which was more than what we paid for our flight. I told her we would match what we were paying, but I would not pay more for her than myself. She appreciated that and went ahead and bought her own. Now, ss is flying with myself, DH and my two bio-children. He lives about 45 minutes to an hour from us (he sponges off of and lives with his sister because his mother moved north and he didn't want to be burdend with the move). Originally, I was going to make him stay the night at our house (even though I don't want him here) but my husband says he should show up when we tell him to in the morning and if he's not here when we tell him, then we leave without him. Now, this kid doesn't show up to anything. He has no clue how to be responsible. His BM picks up the pieces for him and has since he was 12. She makes excuses for his criminal history (which include first degree assault, robbery and several DUIs). She pays for his car, insurance, bills, etc. He has the wherewithal to do things for himself, but he will not. Personally, I think that if ss does not show up at our house on time that morning (we have to leave by 4:30 am) and we leave, that is going to make things even worse between ss and his father. I am tired of baby-sitting and being a mediator for these two grown men. Any advice?