Another baby suffers due to selfish SD
I am too drained and disgusted to give a long background of the SD situation which I've had to observe for more than 20 years now. If anyone cares to know more, my previous posts will fill in all the blanks.
Suffice to say, SD is a married mid-30s prima donna who is the most self-absorbed person I've met - probably at a psychotic level. Her DH is a "bought-and-paid-for boy" who is dumb as rocks and jumps to any tune SD sings, since she has significant money from a family trust, which is lavished upon her by BM.
SD has serious medical conditions and is considered very high-risk for pregnancies. Nonetheless, she continues to PURPOSELY AND INTENTIONALLY get pregnant (IVF). It appears as though she cannot go more than a year or so without having/getting a baby.
She recently delivered ANOTHER premature child that has problems and will be in neonatal intensive care for an extended period. Like her other children, only time will tell what kind of medical/developmental issues they will have.
As soon as she physically recovers from this child I would not be surprised if she goes for yet another.
My SO again wished I would go with him to visit when this baby comes home but I've adamandly refused. I haven't seen these idiots in years now, and I simply cannot put up a pretense and act like things are just peachy when I think what they are doing (to innocent children) is absolutely abhorent.
I am heartbroken by seeing photos of these tiny little infants hooked up to so many machines, tubes, bandages, etc. that I can not even bear to look at them.
@2Tired4Drama, unbelievably
@2Tired4Drama, unbelievably sad...however she will have to care for all these kids and soon they will grow up. She may never face reality but continue to steer clear of all this. This is not your circus, let DH have to face reality. I too steer clear of the SKIDgrands- I have plenty of family elsewhere and I keep my nose out of any of that business. It's served me well- are they angry that I am hands off? Of course. But would they be angier and cause drama and problems if I was hands on? Even more so. You and I see the writing on the wall and it's best to place your good energy and resources elsewhere than to be beaten down by dysfunctional people.
Thanks...
It's comforting to come to STalk community and get support from others who "get it," like you!
Honestly, I don't ever see myself being connected in any way to these kids. If the rare occurance happens that I see them, it will be no more than meeting some casual acquaintance's kids.
I refuse to go see them and IF (that's a big IF) they ever were to come this way, I will most assuredly find some way to be gone and away.
Me too- life's too short to
Me too- life's too short to be treated poorly. I always remind myself to float to warmer waters ImperfectlyPerfect.
There is nothing more sad than a GSKid born to a toxic SKid.
Except for maybe the mate of a SParent chasing their failed family crotch product and yet another generation of unfortunate crotch product while ingnoring the toxic.
Even if the babies are not toxic themselves, the odds of these unfortunate GSKids reaching viable adulthood is so small that it is tragic to consider.
We have had a few members over the years whose SKids were born by a BM who had no business having children. Spawned with a Dx'd genetic or psychological condition that is highly transferable to kids, etc.... Interestingly, this SD is not the first who chose to reproduce repeatedly with high risk pregnancies with the aid of fertility experts.
My XW went to work as a night shift neonatal ICU nurse out of nursing school. Those stories were heartbreaking to hear. A parent facilitating that kind of tragic situation by creating a child with the support of fertility specialists knowing that the baby is likely to have issues is beyond my ability to comprehend. Yes, kids are not infrequently born with issues. However, doing that to a child on purpose is just evil IMHO.
The hippocratic oath would seem to disallow this. "First, do no harm." is not something that makes creation of these babies acceptable.
IMHO of course.
You are absolutely on point, on another point...
"The hippocratic oath would seem to disallow this. "First, do no harm." is not something that makes creation of these babies acceptable."
I am absolutely flabbergasted that ANY respectable physician, fertility office, nurse practitioner, etc. would facilitate these pregnancies having SD's full medical history in front of them. Unfortunately, medicine is big business and SD has money. Even if her insurance doesn't cover it, she has funds (from BM) to pay all the medical bills. Plus, SD is in the medical field herself - so maybe she is pulling strings somehow.
It's like SD's shady adoption of one of the children. Allegedly, a pregnant teen mom just arrived at the medical facility SD works at. Teen mentioned she was thinking of giving child up for adoption, SD says she's interested and voila! SD takes the child home 3 days after birth via private adoption. If that isn't an ethical violation I don't know what is. Other than SD telling an absolute, massive lie about how that child came to be adopted - either of those is possible with SD.
Money talks and corruption sings. Even in the medical field, where it shouldn't.
This is tragic and you are
This is tragic and you are doing the right thing by staying out if it. Completely. I'll never understand how bad mothers/breeders who can't take care of children keep indiscriminately popping them out while some people who so desperately want children can't have them.
If you don’t want to be involved
With SD, We understand why. Just don't do it . Stay away from he circus. It will do you no good
How awful this is. Sadly
How awful this is. Sadly nothing can be done to stop her.