Need Opinions.....
A few months ago we took my SD out to a restaurant for her birthday. Of course her boyfriend came along as well and SS and his girlfriend. SDs BF always wants to occupy my attention (sucking up) and proceeded to sit by me. During the course of the meal I teased the BF about a movie we all recently saw. It was all in fun. However, a month ago, my husband tells me that the boyfriend felt "uncomfortable" with my teasing and the SD didn't like it and thought I was coming on to him!! Wow! Why would she think I was coming on to him when I am married to her father?! I thought it was very weird! My DH tells me he got her "talked down" and then she was fine. Now, I am in a position where I don't want to be left alone with these two for fear they will claim something else. We had to throw a BBQ for the SS and my SD and BF came as well and I could hardly stand to look at them let alone speak to them!! The BF has always driven me up a wall, as he is a total suck up and always breathing down my neck trying to occupy my attention and always gets on my nerves because I can't go to the kitchen during a dinner without him coming in there and standing and wanting to talk with me. Frankly, I could care less what he has to say (I personally feel he looking for handouts). Now, my husband wants me to plan a weekend vacation with the SKs and their friends and I don't want to spend another night with either of them!!
Also, his kids never do any wrong!! Any suggestions?
I agree with other
I agree with other poster...STAY AWAY FROM THIS KID...it seems he has a little crush on you and his girlfriend (your SD)was jealous and did not like that you were joking with him and turned it into something very ugly and potentialy dangerous for you...
Tell your DH that under no circumstances will you be party to anything like a weekend away with them..He can go if he wants but but you will not be attending.... I mean come on what the hell is wrong with DH, can he not see what happened here...why does he want to throw you into the fire...NO WAY..JUST STAY AWAY....
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Thanks for all your comments.
Thanks for all your comments. I do feel it is very weird. My SKs have never been close with me, as their BM is alive and well and they are very close with her. So I have not bonded with them. They were in their late teens and 20's when their parents divorced and have never and will never live with their dad and I. Our relationship has been nothing beyond cordial but after this, I want to keep them at arms length. I am thinking if my husband keeps pushing for a weekend trip with them maybe having them stay in a different cabin from ours might be a solution. That way I can't be accused of offending the insecure SD and I can keep from being alone with her BF.
I would tell him if he wants
I would tell him if he wants a weekend vacation with them, then he can take them by himself. I'd save my vacations for the people that I care about and who care for me. Doesn't sound like it is them. I'd tell him you aren't comfortable being around them, especially when they misinterpret what you say and you'd rather not put yourself in situations where that can happen.
Hello StepAside, I really
Hello StepAside, I really liked your post to my issue. It brought up some ideas I hadn't thought of. Confronting them I'm not sure I could do without getting mad and yelling at SD and BF. I know my hubby would probably hate me. I am not sure, either, why he told me as he has never done this in the several years we have been together and married. I wonder if they have always been slamming me to him and he got tired of it and decided to tell me this? I am going to totally disengage from them and she will probably get the message. I was kind of enjoying the way our relationship had blossomed (with SD) but now look at her much differently. I am not going to put myself in a situation where I could be accused by these two again. My husband doesn't have boundaries when it comes to his children, but I do and I believe this is why SD had a lot of problems growing up, dropped out of school, drugs, stealing and lying. We'll see how the next few months go.