Just paid the rent so I have no money to go anywhere and I can't get ahold of anyone tonight (it's after midnight here). I have no credit cards anymore thanks to BF's poor money habits. We rent our place but the rental is in my name only, so are all the bills. I reminded them both of that and neither one of them would leave. Trust me, I'm glad I'm not married and as soon as I get a second job (or a new one that gives me more hours) I'll be gone but until then I don't know what to do.

I really, really want to call the cops tomorrow and report the threat, but I don't know if that's wise. All I wanted to do was come home and go to bed because I have been battling a headache all day, but instead I get this. We actually got along alot better before SS came back into our lives 2 years ago, but since that time things have gone downhill. BF won't hurt me, but SS obviously hates me (he claims I hate HIM and his brothers - which wasnt true but now I'm not so sure, esp about him).

I'm Canadian.

Obviously I didn't know it would all turn out this way. When I first met him 11 years ago his kids were very young, the problems only arose after his oldest moved to our town 2 years ago. He had been living with his drug-addict mom for 5 years and when she died of an overdose when he was 20 he decided to come live with us. He lived with us for approx 18 months out of the 24 he has been here and during that time he has done nothing but come between us. He refuses to leave the room when we talk, he goes everywhere we go when we go on trips and there's just a basic lack of consideration or respect for BFs and my relationship. That's how it all started really falling apart.

I'm trying out get out, but I need more money in order to do that. Ive been looking for another job so I can stand on my own two feet but it's a challenge to do that right now. I keep trying.

Btw, I'm NOT excusing BF's role in being responsible for SS behaviour, I was merely pointing out that he may not remember what SS said and that makes things harder in morning when he has no clue what I'm talking about. Nope, don't get me wrong, I fully understand he allowed his kid to say that to me in my own home, and that's part of the reason I'm so hurt and angry.

As for insulting SS's dead mom, I only pushed it to that when the kid wouldn't let up on me. He was insulting me about as loudly and as horribly as anyone could and his dad just stood there doing the same too. It's not something I would normally do, I just wanted the barrage of insults to stop and when I touched on his mom, it pissed him off enough that he decided it was time to leave (something I was repeatedly tellihg him to do but he refused over and over). I felt absolutely powerless in my own home.

Thanks for the kind words, it's nice to have someone on my side.

Yep, I was thinking of doing something along that line. Wish his dad was leaving too but he's looking for work so he doesn't leave in the morning. I'm in the process of contacting my landlord about what happened, I want a copy of the lease. It's law in Canada now to contact the police if you are personally threatened with any kind of violence and I've already got in touch with my manager to let them know.

Thanks for the info, I'll keep that in mind if it ever happens again.

SS doesn't live here, he lives in a tent in a field (by choice) and comes over here all the time to use our shower, washing machine, cook his meals etc, all without paying a dime (he says he doesn't need an apartment of his own). He also stays way past his welcome in the evening so BF and I get no time to ourselves. I come home from work and he's there until almost bedtime, then he leaves and it's way too late for anything else between BF and I.