Will this feeling of dread ever go away??
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It's the Easter holidays so as with every holiday we have skids for Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday, and next week as its our weekend we have them Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I am sat in our house while OH goes to pick them up from BM's and I'm literally shaking with dread. I hate that I feel this way. I want to look forward to them coming but because of SD's attitude I can't. She just ignores me the whole time she's here unless she wants something. I feel like a guest in my own home and go out of my way not to be around them when they're here because I get so emotional if I don't. I don't know how much more of it I can take. It's been like this constantly for the past year. Ladies does it ever get easier?
I had more money back when I
I had more money back when I was in stephell. Now I have a massive nanny bill because of baby, but I would take off on stepkid weekends. I would. I'm an hour and a half from ORlando, Fl. I would just get these resort hotels and hang out at the pool. I know everyone can't do that and I couldn't do it now but that's what I did because no it didn't go away for me and I hated feeling like that in my own home
I try to plan stuff when
I try to plan stuff when they're here but most of my friends here have little babies and want to spend all their free time with their families which of course I understand. I moved away from all of my family to live with OH because he couldn't move away from his kids, again understandable. I live in England though so not really ever warm enough to go hang out by the pool
If you feel this way, you
If you feel this way, you most likely always will. There is NOTHING pleasant about skid visits...NOTHING!!! If you want to be with this man, you do whatever you need to do to cope with it, that is the only way you will survive.
I loathe my DHs spawn, so when he invades my home EOWE I either find something to do outside of my home and am gone until he is asleep or I stay in my room and watch tv but when I come home or leave my room I just walk right by DH and the spawn and say nada. IDGAF...I really don't. I don't like that kid, I don't trust that kid, I don't want anything to do with him, I don't want him in my house or my life for that matter so I do whatever I need to do to cope with the invasion until it ends!
Yeah this is what I basically
Yeah this is what I basically spend most of my time doing. Currently sat in my bed listening to music to drown out SD's constant singing/ whistling/whinging/squealing. It is sad. I spoke to my dad about it and he told me to take a seat on the sofa and read or do some work or something and just let my presence be known so she doesn't win at pushing me out. Good idea I think I just can't face it today, my OH knows I can't bare her because id rather stay at home and do dishes/cleaning etc than go out in public with them. Well SD is 11 and SS is 7 so I definitely don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. Just annoys me that I am being made to feel like a stranger in my own home and like I'm invisible by an 11 year old! A f**king CHILD!
Your dad is right, you have
Your dad is right, you have to take your power back. It's your home, own your space. If she wants to have an attitude and ignore you, make that uncomfortable for her; don't be ignored. Be a BIG presence in your own home.
I think I'm going to have to
I think I'm going to have to be because I'm running out of other options. I've tried to nice, I've tried being strict, I've been fair, I've been harsh. I think I've given her enough chances to be honest.
I think I'm going to have to
I think I'm going to have to be because I'm running out of other options. I've tried to nice, I've tried being strict, I've been fair, I've been harsh. I think I've given her enough chances to be honest.
Not all children are loveable
Not all children are loveable (or even likeable or tolerable). Children are just as varied as adults. Some are just obnoxious aholes while others are just loveable honeybunnies. If you unfortunately got the obnoxious aholes - well then that's just what they are. Best to avoid as much as possible.
Children in many ways are just like adults - some (most) are lovely human beings, some are weird but one can adapt, some are obnoxious worthless aholes.
When you lose in the skid lottery and get the worthless POS aholes all you can do is ignore them and try to do no harm until they are adults.