You'll never change him. The more you try the less likely it becomes.
Far better to ignore him. This confuses him and makes him wonder how he's failing. The suddenly the whole world stops putting up with his crap and he straightens up (mostly). Instead of comfirming you're his enemy become neutral. Either that or quit complaining as you're as much of the problem as he is.
I have been ignoring him and his behavior,then the wife tries to turn it around on me and say the reason he acts up is because you don't talk to him^ Nice try but I don't talk to him BECAUSE I'm trying to hint that I don't let him run roughshod like her and her family does. When I was his age I had already been getting my arse kicked by the world,he seems sheltered and I wonder if he'll ever learn.
Hello there. I also have a 17 year old step child SD17 who was running the show with her dad. Come at it from the side is my advice. There is only so long that a sane adult should beat their head against a brick wall. I figured out that because my SD17 was completely surrounded in cotton wool no one else was dealing with the reality of her. No family involved or adults apart from DH, BM and me. How can you force him out into the real world of work and study or whatever it is his mum actually wants for him and more importantly is there anything he wants for himself? In my case I discovered he wanted her to go to Uni and get a part time job, get a car and be a musical genius. I discovered she wanted to go to uni and was receptive over time to driving lessons and a part time job. Musical genius not realistic and was just a foil being used to save her from actual work or mingling with us commoners.
So ask your partner what are her dreams and ambitions and hopes for your SS17? No doubt you will feel that he may well be a long way from mom's vision. Stifle your laughter and try to think from her point of view and listen. then you can take those goals and help her break them down into achievable tasks for him. Hope this does not sound too far fetched but it is working here one slow step at a time.
If you are going to act an
If you are going to act an ass then you are going to get called an ass. In public, at home, at church, at school. Dont care where. Just saying.
You need your DH to knock his
You need your DH to knock his dick in the dirt and demand respect for you. He needs to have consequences for not showing you respect.
You'll never change him. The
You'll never change him. The more you try the less likely it becomes.
Far better to ignore him. This confuses him and makes him wonder how he's failing. The suddenly the whole world stops putting up with his crap and he straightens up (mostly). Instead of comfirming you're his enemy become neutral. Either that or quit complaining as you're as much of the problem as he is.
I have been ignoring him and
I have been ignoring him and his behavior,then the wife tries to turn it around on me and say the reason he acts up is because you don't talk to him^ Nice try but I don't talk to him BECAUSE I'm trying to hint that I don't let him run roughshod like her and her family does. When I was his age I had already been getting my arse kicked by the world,he seems sheltered and I wonder if he'll ever learn.
Hello there. I also have a 17
Hello there. I also have a 17 year old step child SD17 who was running the show with her dad. Come at it from the side is my advice. There is only so long that a sane adult should beat their head against a brick wall. I figured out that because my SD17 was completely surrounded in cotton wool no one else was dealing with the reality of her. No family involved or adults apart from DH, BM and me. How can you force him out into the real world of work and study or whatever it is his mum actually wants for him and more importantly is there anything he wants for himself? In my case I discovered he wanted her to go to Uni and get a part time job, get a car and be a musical genius. I discovered she wanted to go to uni and was receptive over time to driving lessons and a part time job. Musical genius not realistic and was just a foil being used to save her from actual work or mingling with us commoners.
So ask your partner what are her dreams and ambitions and hopes for your SS17? No doubt you will feel that he may well be a long way from mom's vision. Stifle your laughter and try to think from her point of view and listen. then you can take those goals and help her break them down into achievable tasks for him. Hope this does not sound too far fetched but it is working here one slow step at a time.
Lose the hatred. It is not good for you.
She has no visions for
She has no visions for him...that's nothing to stifle laughter at.
I'll keep my hatred thanks;
Can't I just punch him in the
Can't I just punch him in the head?...
Not until he's 18.
Not until he's 18.
^^^^LOL!^^^^ No. You can't.
^^^^LOL!^^^^ No. You can't. Sorry.
I mean aren't kids supposed
I mean aren't kids supposed to get better with age? This one seems to be making up for lost time...it's like Chinese water torture!