Yesterday was VERY interesting in our household. It started with a text from DH brother stating that BM had told him that DH and I were talking about her while she was here for MIL's wedding. She said that if I start something at DH gmother's birthday party that she'll kick my butt. She also felt disrespected at the fact that I did not talk to her and made her feel uncomfortable during her stay. It was also brought to my attention that I felt awkward when BIL's called BM SIL. I'm thinking WTF?! The old me would have let it go; I'm not passive aggressive anymore. I called her and asked if there is anything that she needs to tell me. She repeated everything that was said to her. I informed her that I would not have said anything like that. If I felt awkward, I would her told her this. I could care less if BIL's call her SIL. I told her that if she felt disrespected, then she should have come to me and said something to me. After talking and clearing the air, the ENTIRE conversation changed. We began talking about the kids. A 20 min. phone call changed to an hour. I was like whoa, BM is not what I thought. Yes, she is dramatic; I have witnessed this. I do believe that I have had an epiphany on BM.I am guessing that I took all of the things that DH and family has said and formed my opinion before even meeting her. She asked me if it is OK if she come to DH Gmothers bday party. I said that I would not mind if she came. She also said that she would like to get to know me better. I said for the kids sake that would be the best thing. She also said that DH and her are friends and would like to stay friends. They have known each other for almost 20 years. I said that because I am married to him, I would appreciate it if you two spoke only about the kids. I understand that you two have known each other for a long time but there has to be boundaries. She said that this was fine.
I still have my guard up but things are looking up for our family for the time being. After hearing our conversation, DH HAD to say a prayer! lol.