So last night SD13 has her 3rd counseling session. DH has told her and BM that it doesn't matter who takes her, but if it's on our night, DH would like to take her. So SD tells DH last night (as they go to pick up BD1 from daycare) "I don't want you to take me, I hate it here. My counselor told me that I'd be better off with my BM even though she made me pee in a cup (BM smoked pot at a party then DHS was called and had SD pee for her). He (counselor) says that ya'll are just sorry people." I told DH it was a good think I was not in the car! Then DH calls BM to say she's got to start helping us with SD. She can't just play "good mom" and let her do whatever she wants when she's with her. BM tells DH that the only reason we got joint custody was because she f'd up and smoked pot at a party and had SD pee in a cup for her-...ISN'T THAT ENOUGH???? DH then told her..."not to mention the fact that you've been in jail for a year for drugs, etc., and all the other crap you've pulled". Of course this just sets off the rest of the yelling and fighting between the two of them.

Is it too much to ask that BM go along or at least discuss with us discipling SD when she smart mouths, sasses, grades are dropping, out right rude....of course BM one minute says she has to deal with the same thing and the next "she never acts like that over here"

I"m so frustrated!