Instead of focusing on rebuilding Chef's vintage vehicle, Mr. NSN, who is heavily enmeshed with his adult son the Mechanic,  let it slip that Chef's only full-blooded brother (Uncle Kinky) who has been shunning Chef for divorcing the Girhippo, is moving back from the "big city" to his hometown which Uncle K has despised in his youth as being a "hick town."

Seems the big city is now too dangerous for Uncle K to live in with all the Kia Boys break-ins.  It should be noted that until it affected him, Uncle K was very soft on crime.

Has anyone else experienced this? Where your DH gets crabby, moody, and down because his kids have fully embraced their Mothership’s side and completely cut him off because of PAS?

In the mornings before work, he’s short with me—not his usual cheerful self. It’s like he’s carrying all this sadness and taking it out on me, whether he realizes it or not.

For those unfamiliar with shunning, it’s a form of social rejection often associated with stories from the past—like Nathaniel Hawthorne’s The Scarlet Letter, where communities ostracized individuals deemed ‘immoral’. Over the past several decades, shunning has evolved into a more subtle but equally damaging practice. It has become a negative art of avoidance, one that can deeply hurt and alienate its target.

In another post, MorningMia wrote: DH eventually began to see his kids for who and what they are and finally accepted that they would never have the relationships he expected. He said in a sarcastic tone (as if, "big deal"), "She (BM) WON!" lol. 

A Pyrrhic victory is one that is achieved at a great cost, resulting in significant losses for the victor and making the victory unworthy. Our not-so-beloved Crazy BM has a habit of winning Pyrrhic victories.

For the past 8 years, every holiday was affected by the fact that SS was being kept from us. It definitely put my DH in a funk and it affected me as a result as well.

Now SS is back with us but not under the circumstances we'd hoped. So the general feeling in the air is of disappointment again.

I'm just taking our kids to my parents for the holiday. DH will be staying behind so SS doesn't do anything stupid.

Congrats BM, you have definitely won. There is a special place in hell for parents who do parental alienation. Nothing but destruction is left in it's wake.