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DH,why is SD answering my texts to you?

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Submitted by Agent_Lovely on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 7:35am

I installed a voice to text app on DH's iphone.He uses it all the time to text me if he's on the road.It functions beautifully and he doesn't risk killing himself or others from texting.He just talks and it goes to full text and gets sent to my phone.

With that said lately whenever DH has SD with him I've noticed the texts back from him are in "text speak" you know,instead of I love you it's ILU or ILU2.That kind of stuff.Stuff that you have to be 16 with calloused thumbs from texting all day in order to understand.

Stuff that a 14yr old kid would text.

I don't often text DH but when I do it's usually asking him to pick something up on his way home or asking him what he wants for dinner or sending him a playful flirty message.

APPARENTLY I was right to be suspicious of the oddly juvenile text speak messages.I asked him about it and asked him if the voice app wasn't functioning properly and he says 'oh no it's working fine.it's just that i let SD play my phone while we're in the car so if you text,she replies for me.'

WTF?

First of all,I've sent some pretty racy messages to DH before.It's our way of flirting and keeping things interesting.WHY would he take a chance of having SD see one of those?Why wouldn't he tell me he lets his CHILD respond to my messages??HOW are my messages ANY of her business?

I didn't blow this out of proportion thankfully.I simply asked him to stop letting her read my texts and if he can't respond at that time then just leave it until later when he has time rather than asking the child to read and respond.

Sometimes I feel like his head becomes loosened during the night and oxygen doesn't get to his brain so he makes stupid choices.

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Submitted by Siferra on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 9:59am

Wait until he's in the car and send something flirty. He'll figure it out quickly enough, and one of the most hilarious parts of growing up is learning your parents (and steps) still have fun.

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Submitted by stressgirl79 on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 10:15am

My DH does this too, and I usually don't learn that it's one of the skids answering until it's too late and I've said something racy or offensive. But my answer is always the same - "Why do the kids have your phone? I am perfectly happy waiting until you have the chance to answer...?"

I guess I don't have any good advice for you because I haven't figured out how to get him to stop it, he still does it, it still drives me crazy, and I'm just commiserating. Perhaps it is a lack of oxygen to their poor little brains. :?

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Submitted by Newstep on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 10:36am

My BF does this too it is so annoying. Messages I send him are for him not SD. She grabs his phone the minute she gets home and starts "playing games" more like snooping through his text messages. She has an Itouch so no reason in the world she needs his Iphone to play with. She has no boundaries with him and he allows it. So frustrating!!!

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Submitted by unsure99 on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 11:02am

My BF does this too and it drives me crazy!! Not only does she get on his phone and will answer if I call she also has his face book password. When I found that out I was so pissed!! I had known that she got on his phone so I had been using the fb inbox as a way of 'commnicating' to him, you know venting or flirting, whatever was going on that day. When I saw that she had got on his page I was furious! I mean can we not have anything private??

She will get on his phone and change his pics every single time she comes. He will change the pics to include me and she will change them before she gets home from him picking her up!! This past weekend I saw his phone laying on the bar and I picked it up and changed all the pics to me and or me and him!! Hahahaha, i'm sure she changed them back before she went home but I got a secrect little laugh out of it....

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Submitted by bestwife on Thu, 02/09/2012 - 2:19am

If I had a skid who read Dh's facebook I'd post all sorts of crap. Like "well I'm so sorry that you have no love for your DD. I don't think she's nearly as slutty, mean, ugly, repulsive, etc. as you do." Let her read that and think that's what her father is saying.