I've been in the stepmom game for about 7 years now.My stepdaughter is 14.We have pretty much gotten all the major issues ironed out.Now it's just a matter of getting her to be respectful.Since mommy dearest coddles her like she's still 4 years old,SD can't do anything for herself.But I'm getting used to that and I simply step aside to let Dh handle it.

You know your life is pathetic when you walk into your kitchen,see the expensive whole wheat bread that you buy for yourself bc you're diabetic sitting on the counter barely closed and getting more stale by the second and you want to literally find the person who did it and strangle them until they're dead. This child CANNOT close a package of bread to save her life.She doesn't even try.I know it may seem like nitpicking to some but to me,every time I go to make a sandwich or whatever and my bread is stale I want to scream.Groceries are entirely too expensive to let them go bad like that.Aside from the fact that I buy regular wheat bread for the rest of the family and she refuses to make sure she's using the correct kind.

Did I just rant about bread? Yep.

Aside from the petty bread issue we commonly sweep everything else under the rug as though it isn't happening.We have to plan our entire lives around her stupid schedule but I'm starting to get used to living for someone else's demon spawn.

The ONE thing that is becoming intolerable is the way she talks to DH.When she speaks to him I hear nothing but her hell on wheels mother coming out of her mouth.It's awful.But if I correct this smart mouth,nasty,degrading way she talks to her father...I become the bad guy.I can't wait until she is 16.Then she'll be driving and I don't care if I have to buy her a car myself,I will do it.Reason being because I know once she is in charge of her own transportation and actually has a choice of where to spend her time,she won't be spending it at our house.Dh has pretty much expressed relief over this fact for some reason.It's odd to me though bc we haven't fought seriously over SD since our first year of marriage.I think he's just sick of her really.And that's sad for both of them.Gleeful for me:D But sad for them.