You are here

belleboudeuse's Blog

OMG -- A website that is SOOOO useful for stepmoms!!!!!!

belleboudeuse's picture

Submitted by belleboudeuse on Thu, 01/21/2010 - 6:39pm

I just found a website that has TONS AND TONS of articles that should be useful for us stepmoms in trying to help our men understand the ex-spouse issues and guilty parenting issues that threaten to derail our marriages. It's actually a site FOR single dads:

http://singledadlife.com/

The thing is, it is chock full of articles saying the SAME THINGS that many of us have been trying over and over to tell the men in our lives.

Just found a good article on setting healthy boundaries -- thought I'd share

belleboudeuse's picture

Submitted by belleboudeuse on Thu, 01/21/2010 - 4:20pm

A couple of people today have written blogs about the perennial problem of getting their BFs/DHs to set and maintain healthy boundaries with their exes. I just found an article that I thought I'd share -- it does a good job of explaining why and how to set healthy boundaries with the ex. Maybe some of you will want to print it out and have your BF/DH read it -- it could spark some "a-ha" moments (one can only hope!).

http://www.authorsden.com/visit/viewArticle.asp?id=1298

BB

OT- Porn.

belleboudeuse's picture

Submitted by belleboudeuse on Wed, 01/20/2010 - 1:04pm

Ladies -- and Gentlemen, please respond as well, I'd love your opinions on any or all of these questions:

1) Ladies, how do you feel about the idea of your BF/DH/SO using porn. Is it something you're comfortable with, uncomfortable with -- is it a total deal-breaker? (Gentlemen, I'll ask you this, too. My guess is it's not something you've thought about as much, but prove me wrong if I am!)

When I side with the BM...

belleboudeuse's picture

Submitted by belleboudeuse on Thu, 01/14/2010 - 4:04pm

Recently, some of the things said by people on ST who are SMs AND BMs have gotten me thinking. Specifically, yes, this is a forum for stepmoms, but many people on here are both. And those people, at least, can see both sides of the story and have some sympathy for the BM perspective in the SM/BM struggle.

Following on C_G's last blog

belleboudeuse's picture

Submitted by belleboudeuse on Wed, 12/23/2009 - 1:09pm

I just read Constantly_Guilty's last blog "Sad and Hurt for My SD10 This Christmas", about how her SD's BM can't even be bothered to MAIL her own daughter a Christmas present. Instead, she's going to wait until the next time she sees her -- in APRIL.

I started writing a ranty response because I can SOOOOOO relate to how C_G feels, but then I realized I was probably hijacking and should just rant in my own blog.

I'm gonna raise my glass

belleboudeuse's picture

Submitted by belleboudeuse on Fri, 11/20/2009 - 4:24pm

I'm gonna go pour myself a drink and raise my glass to all the ST members on here who are going through a breakup. Stay strong, ladies (and gents, if I missed any of you): hold your heads up high, remember that it WILL get better, and here's to all of you.

Happy weekend, everyone!

Belle

Pages