Ok so I have been with him for almost 2 years. He has 2 girls ages 11 and 10. The 10 year old is very laid back and is not affected by much. She could pretty much take or leave everything, including her father. The 11 year old is a different story entirely. This girl idolizes her father!! He is her whole world. She wants to live with us but her biomom won't let that happen. I am getting mixed signals from this child. Sometimes I think their relationship is strange. (I never had a relationship with my father) I come second. ALWAYS. I play back fiddle to his girls.