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How do I deal with the current situation?? XP saying he wants to quit drinking.

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Submitted by Brolynbub on Tue, 02/04/2014 - 7:21pm

Ok, so as I have posted previous I have asked my partner to move out. I told him that it was just not working for us...he basically has been completely absent from my and my bio sons life, the only time he starts being around is when SS is coming over 4 nights a fortnight.
I have blocked a lot of details, but basically he is an alcoholic who comes home and verbally and emotionally abuses me. Whether he is drunk or not this happens, but it is extreme when he has been drinking.

Wheels are in motion, but I'm still devastated

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Submitted by Brolynbub on Wed, 01/29/2014 - 8:13pm

Ok, so after coming on here to gather opinions, chatting to friends and to family, I have set the wheels in motion to get my partner out of the house.
Despite me knowing things couldn't keep going the way they were, I am gutted that the man I have loved for the past 2.5 years will be leaving my life. He is like a child, in that he is a lovable idiot, but living with a 35 year old alcoholic who behaves like a child is a killer.

This makes me feel so sad and confused

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Submitted by Brolynbub on Wed, 01/15/2014 - 9:30pm

Ok, popular opinion is that I need to get rid of DP. He is a sad man who has had an awful upbringing which he is (from what I have seen) trying to share with my son. Aside from a huge revelation to me that SS is NOT my problem, i now fully blame DP for all the issues that I previously blamed SS for. He is the adult and he is causing this, I am ashamed to admit that I couldn't see a child's relative innocence in the situation.

I just overheard my parenting being undermined

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Submitted by Brolynbub on Fri, 01/10/2014 - 5:05am

:jawdrop:
Ok, so DP is a bit inebriated at moment and we had another argument because he has complained about my son asking to go to sleep in my bed sometimes and then tonight after the usual bedtime drama...he puts the SS in our bed. I've gone in to go to the loo and SS and DP are chatting in there. Apparently my son had a great idea and so SS should get to sleep in there...despite me saying no to my son.

My DP is so lazy it just kills me!!

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Submitted by Brolynbub on Wed, 01/08/2014 - 9:33pm

I don't actually know where to start. I have been with DP for 2.5 years. We initially lived together for 9 months before I couldn't handle him any more. Every time he spoke to my son he would be nasty and they direct contrast to how he spoke to his son was killing me and my son was very upset all the time. He used to yell at my son and throw his toys (actually he still does). Anyway, he moved out for 12 months and has recently, after much soul searching from us, moved back in. My son is 9, his son is 7.5. I have my boy full time, he goes to his dads one night a fortnight.