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Caroline2b1211's picture

It's been a while since i didn't post on my blog. 
To sum up, it's a big familly mess since DH and I had our baby (7 months old by the way). 

First ILs made big drama about it and denied our child. Then, they turn SD far from DH. We used to have him EOTW and half holidays before our baby birth. Now we barely see him, and when he is at home, it's not a pleasure at all : liars, false allegation against his dad and i, does whatever he can to short the stay.... 

Since last visit, in april, when we found out that MIL and SIL texted him to encourage him to lie about us ! 

DH cut links with his entire family and only talk to SS and BM. BM is too attracted by MIL free childcare to take seriously the point. And i am way and way tired to care and think about SS9 who is such ungrateful. 

So i decided to only focus on my familly safety and we brought 5 cameras to video record SS visitations. 
I feel more safe and protected from his potential future lies. Plus we decided to take off SS phone when he is on visitations (big drama started with texted false accusation). If he wants to play poor boy with MIL and SIL, he would have to wait until the end of his visitation. 

We will have him this week-end for father day. He will arrive tomorrow after spending a night at evil MIL. In fact, BM was supposed to drive half-way this afternoon, but she called DH to tell him she will only be available at night. Of course, DH refused and say that if it was not possible today, they will arrange tomorrow. However, BM really wanted her night off and decided to drop SS to MIL. 

I do hope he won't be horrible with us after a brainwashing night at evil monster MIL 

 

 

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Rags's picture

It is time to shut down the toxic IMHO.  Cut the ILs out of the picture during DH's COd time.  If BM wants to give up her time so SS can be with your toxic MIL... so be it.

If BM drops SS off with the MILs on DH's time, DH goes to get him immediately.

Every.............. single..................... time.

Beenall3kindsofmom's picture

End this now! You can't let this toxic brainwashing to continue. Does your CO address ROFR? If not, you sure should have that included. Cut out the IL's as much as you possibly can........that or give up on this poor child. They will destroy him if this continues. As usual, Rags, your "uncommon" common sense shines through.

Caroline2b1211's picture

Beenal and Rags, you are so right. 
However, we have a baby here, and both of us work all the week. SS picks up need some organization as BM lives 2 hours from us. DH just can't live at night instead of afternoon just because BM decided to not respect the planning. We just can't do what we want.
He left early this morning to take his son... and they are not even arrived (with traffic). 

Caroline2b1211's picture

Hi shamds, 

Yes you are right. Unfortunately there is not court at all. Only "agreements" because smart MIL always told DH that parents who go to court will traumatized SS. 
So it's agreements, since they broke up (so since SS is one)