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Submitted by Choosingtolove on Mon, 01/16/2012 - 10:56am

SS7 has ADD. That's not a big deal usually, however it means he needs routine.
So our house has routine up the yingyang.
Needless to say he doesn't always like it.

Which is why BM's is the most awesome place in the world.

A place where he can eat whatever he wants (like marshmellows all night instead of the alternating healthy and fun snacks at our house)

A place where he can stay up as late as he wants ... and does (instead of going to bed the same time every night like at our house)

A place where he can wake up whenever he wants (instead of at a set time on school days like at our house ... needless to say he gets to sleep in on the weekends here but forgets that).

A place where he doesn't have to do homework, or anything at all for that matter (unlike our house who not only has to do our homework, but the stuff he doesn't do at his mom's too because she never does work with him).

I hate being the bad guy. I hate having to make him do stuff all the time that he doesn't want to do. I get that it's part of being a parent but it sucks when I'm doing it and all he's saying is "I want to live with mom"

That's great but your teeth will fall out, you'll be a zombie from the lack of sleep and you'll never graduate ... but sure .. go live with her ... why not?

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Submitted by hismineandours on Mon, 01/16/2012 - 11:05am

Been there, done that.

My ss did decide the grass was greener and moved in with bm at about age 10. It took him about 6 months to realize that no matter what color your grass is, it still needs to be mowed. Unfortuntaly he was unable to generalize this as he now lives at my inlaws becasue the grass looked greener over there. He's been there almost 6 months, i am wondering if he if beginning to feel the need to move on again. And unfortunately we've got bio parents in my case that let that happen.

Be proud of yourself. Your job is not to make the kid like you (although that's always nice) but to help prepare him to be a functioning member of society. Sounds like you are doing a good job.