Congratulations! It's always good when these people shoot themselves in the foot. Hold on to what she said and use it as reason to never do another thing for or see her again. 

They sound unstable. 
 

And the 25 year old stil referencing herself as a "child" um no ma'am that's fully grown and the responsibility to maintain a relationship is now equal. 

Well, none of us can ever say step life is boring.  Accusations, reconciliations, financial requests, name-calling, tears, on and on.  Its easy to say this but try not to take any of this personally.   The upside is that FF has removed herself further from you.  Try not to comment to DH or PS, either positively or negatively.  Whatever you say would be misrepresented.

Bravo to DH... almost.  He needs to just publish the facts to the entire family, lather rinse and repeat as FF, TT, and sadly though likely PS ply their toxic shit, and give FF and PS the clear message that DH is not the daddy ATM for their poor decisions, substandard efforts, and repeating of their polluted gene pool mother's shit example.

Uncontional love does not mean unconditional acceptance of toxic and manipulative bullshit.  IMHO this standard needs to be as firm with family as it is with anyone else. The standard of zero tolerance for toxic  that is.

"I love you, but I do not like you. And that is on you, not me."  Is an extremely powerful message that toxic kids need from a parent who loves them unconditionally.

nothing good ever comes from a FF sighting. I think Daddyo should just say to the whole family thread "I have recently given her $$$ and instead of saying thank you she came back with her grubby paw out for more. Since you think she's so sweet, feel free to give her hundreds of dollars too" 

Damn. I'm sorry you have to deal with these people. FF sounds a lot like my SO's daughter (24.) Showed up at his house to "crash for a week", stayed 3 months befire leaving in a tidal wave of drama. Texted a week later asking for more money. SO told her he didn't have any after spending it all on her, SD27 (who also regularly texts for gas and food money from out of state), and the lawyer to defend against BM2's latest filings. SO had to borrow several thousand from me just to make his bills that month (don't worry, i didn't let him forget to pay me back.) Anyway, when he wouldn't pay SD24, she texted a big tantrum and hasn't been heard from or replied to his texts in months.

I think your DH and my SO are very similar. They like to have kids around but don't like to actually do the boring or hard stuff. With the girls, anyway, most of their lives were spent doing the Disney thing, acting more like a combo of boyfriend and fairy godfather than parents. Now, they are confused as to why they aren't respected by their daughters.  

CLove, words/opinions only matter if we let them. FF is full of sh!t. Don't be upset by any garbage spewed by that toxic piece of fecal matter. Step over it. You know the truth. Family knows the truth. It's all to get a rise out of someone. {{hugs}}

Why is it always the people that claim wildly that family has turned against them are always the crazy/toxic ones. For the record people see right through that sort of statement and actions.

That's why I feel like when dealing with toxic or crazy person it's always best to just remain  calm and steady. An even keel. 

Glad you didn't get involved. I'm learning myself also to stay out of the way is best.

I think you've noticed in this case that removing yourself had been productive and efficient. 

She sounds like she has a personality disorder. 

What she may not realize is that parents aren't obligated to keep up a relationship with an adult child if that adult child is abusive. Estrangement can go both ways. 

I hope your DH at least cuts her off for a bit. He seems like he's providing her with her narcissistic or borderline "supply" and he needs to remove himself from that dynamic.

This reminds me of an episode of Beaivs and Butthead.  I can't remember what they were talking about, but whatever it was, Beavis didn't like it, and said "Shut up Butthed, your mom's a slut!"  Totally redirecting the conversation with something completely unrelated.  Kind of like FF randomly calling you a whore.  What a B.

Now that DH put his foot down. Will not give her any money next month :?  Or will he go Disney dadddy and give her $100mof dollars to make it up?  

I predict it will all blow over... DH will likely give/lend her money again at some point.  He didn't help because he didn't want to.. but because he didn't have the money.. I'm sure she hit a bit of a nerve with him over the "parent not reaching out".. he will have to make that up to her at some point... 

Did your DH address the whore comment?