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Something wrong with Munchkin SD13 (*edited)

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:07pm

This is one of those instances that we all experience at one time or another. That helpless feeling when someone we love "has something wrong" with them medically.

Toxic Troll took munchkin to the DR for a general physical, and shes got something wrong

Can I say that I hate this?

ALL I can do is hope, and pray, and be supportive for DH.

Thank you for the prayers, and good thoughts.

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:22pm

He is home sick today and lacks the energy.

Plus, its always been this kind of division - Toxic Troll always has control of the kids medical activities. When SD20 was a teen she took her to ER for menstral cramps she claimed were popping polyps. When the kids go for dental work, anything, its under her control. An per CO, DH pays ALL expenses. She controls insurance.

So he should get Drs info - for some reason Toxic took her to a local hospital for general physical. And gave him no info about that either.

Of course, I cannot press DH for any info, he gets upset. I dont want him to shut down on me, not now.

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:23pm

Hope you both get to find out soon and that whatever it is (if BM is not lying) that it can be remedied ASAP.

 

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:24pm

hopes and prayers much appreciated.

I hate to think of what it could be. Shes insisted she has no interest in having a boyfriend or anything to do with sex. And we talk pretty openly about things, I have no judgements.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:42pm

Aw, crud. Praying it's nothing serious and Munchkin is better ASAP.

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:56pm

I went through that many years when SD18 was undiagnosed with TYPE 1 diabetes.  I have PTSD from it honestly.  I completely feel you.  I 100 percent know the helplessness you experience when a child you care about is really, really sick and her mother is bat sh*T crazy and really stupid and incompetent to boot (let's all recall how North Korea kept taking her to the chiropractor for spinal adjustments as SD went from 100 lbs to 68 lbs at 11 years old instead of a real doctor and DD5's dad would just keepp writing the checks to the chiropractor) and her father doesn't care enough or won't do anything to take the control away from BM.  Giant hugs to you, my friend.      

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 12:59pm

Just thinking how Toxic Troll was with SD20 - giving her meds that are not prescribed, taking her to ER at lease once a month, 5150'ed her. Got her on asthma meds when she doesnt have asthma. Sheesh.

We found out what it was, but there will be more, I feel it.

Thanks! Hugs appreciated.

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Submitted by ndc on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 1:16pm

Oh, clove, I hope Munchkin will be OK.

I'm puzzled as to why TT would take her to the hospital for a general physical. That makes no sense. A medical office building connected to the hospital - sure. But a hospital? 

Does your DH have joint legal, so he can follow up and get info directly from the doctor? It's always possible that you're getting the TT translation, which might not be entirely accurate.

I'm wishing all of you the best.

 

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 1:18pm

DH has said firmly that I am to stay out of it. I did suggest that he can obtian more information. He told me to find the off button.

Dont like this part of stepping at all. Step aside...

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Submitted by hereiam on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 2:10pm

He told me to find the off button.

Oh, I would find my off button, alright. And it might be awhile before he could find my ON button.

No reason for him to talk to you like that, no matter what is going on.

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 4:05pm

But hes also very sick, and having to deal with Toxic Troll...

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Submitted by ndc on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 2:42pm

Oh, if my DH said this to me, he would swiftly find himself 100% responsible for his kid in our home. No rides, no money, no "babysitting," no outings, no advice from me. Nothing.  That is sooo incredibly disrespectful to someone who has done so much for his child. Just stop - he doesn't deserve your help.

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 4:06pm

From 3 years ago popped up  -at a pumkin farm with munchkin and i took a ton of cute photos that I was going to print and give him for christmas.

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Submitted by Thumper on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 2:37pm

Oh noooo I agree with hereiam. That was so rude of him. Of course you care about what is wrong with sd.

Lets face it we can talk a lot of  garbage on here but bottom line is we are all very compassionate about all kids.

Please let us know whats going on.

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Submitted by Harry on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 3:39pm

Then SK are not over your home unless DH is there taking care of them. He can also cook, clean do the wash and all transportation for SK..  None of your money goes to support SK  he pause his share whsts 2/3 of all bills 

 

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 4:12pm

But he is very sick and having to deal with Toxic Troll who doesnt really let him be a parent.

so he is taking his frustrations out on me.

I just told him he is on his own.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 5:32pm

Your DH is a crap father and husband, pure and simple. The only reason he has kept it together this long is because you have tried to have positive relationships with his kids and set boundaries with BM. It has nothing to do with him standing up and being better.

I truly hope Munchkin is okay and not preggers or has an STI. I also hope that if she has either, they are a product of her being a stupid teenager and not someone taking advantage.

And I don't echo what others say about turning off completely. Well, I take that back. I would stop doing anything remotely useful to him. BUT, if my DH EVER told me to essentially shut my trap, I'd let him have it eight ways to Sunday. Don't drag me into your baggage when it's convenient for you and cast me aside when it becomes inconvenient. It's a really easy and quick way to earn an ex.

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 6:22pm

didnt think of that.

I hope that she will discuss with us or at least DH what is going on.

But weve moved on to bigger better things. Toxic Troll has a "hot date" tomorrow, so we will have munchkin early.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Fri, 10/25/2019 - 6:57pm

I'm sorry you are so worried and hope there is not something serious or even semi-serious wrong. 

I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around being told there is "something wrong" but no further explanation. How does that even go down? Does she refuse further explanation or does your husband just not ask? 

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Submitted by Lollybobs on Sat, 10/26/2019 - 5:53pm

'DH has said firmly that I am to stay out of it. I did suggest that he can obtian more information. He told me to find the off button'

Off-button my arse.So it's ok for you to look after her, do things for her, help and support her - but god forbid you might actually care about her! She either is your business or she isn't.. That's incredibly hurtful and insensitive to expect you to switch your feelings on and off like that. Man-flu or not, perhaps he needs to be told a few home truths.

As it's obviously a 'down there' problem, to put it politely, could it have anything to do with her sister's 'toys' that she keeps discovering....?

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 10/28/2019 - 12:26pm

I seriously hope not. But shes been spending more time in her room, door closed.

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Sun, 10/27/2019 - 11:29am

I hope poor girl does not have STD, is this the girl with whom you wanted to discuss sex toys she found? Is she being  exposed to something not age appropriate? I hope she wasn’t molested or used dirty toys 

Your DH is an a$$hole. He is right there in a hall of fame of worse husbands of Steptalk. Please stop finding excuses for him and allowing bad treatment.  Other men get sick and have horrible exes yet they don’t treat their wives like crap. This man beat you down so much that you lost all self respect. You deserve so much better